For sure.
Show me the back door.
Dancing guys?
I’m being whooshed here, right? Like unicorns?
To clarify the OP, my friend has no problem dancing with anybody – after all, he went out & danced with the mother with no hesitation. The creepiness in the situation came from the mother telling him that the husband was a jackass and to ignore the wedding ring. He got the feeling the mother wanted more to develop than just a dance.
If you’re curious, I did convince him to go ask her to dance. I would’ve done it myself, but he’s got more of a tall handsome vibe going on than me, so he gave her a better birthday ego-boost than I would have.
Yeah, getting the feeling that the mother wanted something more to develop is definitely creepy. As the hubby, I don’t have a problem with someone dancing with my wife. I’m secure enough in her affections that I know it wouldn’t amount to anything. Plus, I know her limits and what she would and would not go for.
I do think it would be creepy, even inappropriate, if it was a sensuous bump and grind or a really clingly dance, but under normal circumstances, I don’t see the harm.
MrseNiGma would often come to my gigs, and I wouldn’t mind seeing her out there on the floor having a good time. When we have gone out together, and her friends (some married) are asking me to dance, she has no problem with it, so why should I have a problem when someone asks her?
Dancing is fine, of course it depends on the kind of dancing and it would be up to both parties to keep it to something she wouldn’t mind her kids watching. That was kind of the tule of thumb I used when I was married, if I wouldn’t mind my husband or kids walking in then it was probably okay.
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My married friend goes out dancing all the time without her husband. She dances with guys, but if they get too friendly she just flashes the ring and says, “No, no.” No biggie.
My mind would have siezed up with visions of hot “Mom and Daughter Tag-Team” action that I would have started to drool and wet myself.
I think the dance would have been declined at that point.
I wonder if she calls her mom “Madam”?
How is Rap like Porn? Both are better with the sound turned off.
Consider comparing it to talking to a married woman. Talking is fine. Flirting is wrong. Joining her could be misinterpreted. Mum suggesting you talk is fine. Mum hinting that husband is a jackass is worrying.
Of course, some people don’t dance with anyone except their SOs which is fine, but I think they need to get used to giving a pleasant “no thanks” if they’re sitting alone watching dancing.
While that particular situation seems wierd (I would have found it mortifying for my mom to find me dance partners at any age), I’m all for dancing in general. I love dancing. Sometimes my husband goes with me; sometimes he doesn’t. Even when he does, I enjoy dancing with lots of different partners. It all stays innocent–I’ve never been the cause of a bar brawl (she thinks ever-so-slightly-wistfully).
I imagine (as others have suggested) that the guy was creeped out not by the idea of dancing with a married woman, but by the “Y’know, her husband’s a dick - she could use a little affection!” attitude that the mother seemed to convey. I suspect that if he’d just gotten a “My daughter’s hubby couldn’t make it out tonight… How 'bout giving the birthday girl a dance?” vibe, he wouldn’t have found it creepy.
I wonder if the birthday girl knew what her mom was implying during the chat’n’dance. 