Here we go again with another opportunity to judge the morality of others from the comfort of your own home.
A little over a week ago I was at a local bar enjoying some brews, live music, and general silliness with a few friends. This was one of the nice, local bars, where people of all ages feel welcome to join in on the dance floor, and not some hot dance club full of horny twenty-somethings grinding their genitals up against each other’s butts.
I was sitting with my friend Ryan when he was approached by an older woman for a dance. No big deal – Ryan went out and danced with her. While they were dancing, though, the woman pointed out an attractive 30ish woman to Ryan. Now, being two twenty-something single men out at the bars on a Saturday night, we had already spotted this attractive woman long before, and noted that she was wearing a wedding ring.
Well the woman dancing with Ryan explained that the other woman was her daughter, and it was her 30th birthday. The daughter’s husband, for some reason, did not feel the need to attend the birthday celebration. She didn’t go into any deals on why he wasn’t there, or whether his absence was voluntary or not, but Ryan felt it was clear from the discusson that the mother thought he was a jackass. She had initiated the dance with my buddy to encourage him to ignore that wedding ring and ask the daughter to dance.
So, that’s when the discussion began. Ryan’s opinion was that the whole situation was creepy, and asking the married woman to dance would be wrong. I felt he should go ask her to dance. I wasn’t encouraging him to have an affair or anything - just a simple dance. I figured, hey, she’s having a crappy day, with her husband not bothering to show up for her birthday and all – maybe being asked to dance by a young, handsome fella will brighten her mood a bit. If she’s a decent person she’ll mention her husband, and Ryan can just comment that her husband’s a lucky guy and thank her for the dance. If she doesn’t mention him, well then that’s creepy, and he’s gotta try to avoid her for the rest of the night, but that’s nothing too bad. All in all, as long as it goes no further than a dance, no harm’s done, she gets a small ego boost to brighten her evening, and he earns a little karma from the bar gods.
So what would the teeming millions do? Dance, or no?