I like FaceBook as a way to keep in touch with people. But my “friends” list has gotten a bit bloated. I got people in there that I like just fine, but they are friends of friends that I haven’t talked to in years. I would like to prune my friends list back to people who, if they post about their dogs, I actually am interested. However, I have no desire to be rude, so my question is this:
If I de-friend somebody, will that show up on their feed?
If they post about their dogs, the easier thing to do is click on the “X” to the right of the post and it will give you the option to just “hide” their posts. You won’t actually be de-friending anyone but you won’t see their constant stream of canine drivel.
No. They could only realise it if they see their friend numbers go down and try to find which one defriended (plus what Zipper said). For people who have several hundred friends, this seems like a lot of effort, especially considering that sometimes the number goes down and then back up without any defriending having occured.
Also, if you haven’t seen it, you can hide the feeds of applications this way, like Farmville and all of its spawn. So if you do want to see your sisters baby pics but not updates about her lost cows, do that. Facebook gets much better once you get a hundred apps hidden.
Your “friends” will know you defriended them if they have one of the Facebook extensions installed that track these things. I added one to my Facebook account because I got tired of trying to figure out who was defriending me when my friend count would shrink by 1.
Like ataraxy22 said, they will know if they have this Greasemonkey doodad. I have it, and each unfriend is a dagger in my heart!! rends garments
… Not really. But yeah, I think it’s more polite to just remove them from your feed. I only unfriend people I have a genuine problem with - joining another hilarious racist group, for example, rather than posting well-meaning drivel about their dogs. YMMV.
And I disagree that defriending is no big deal. It may not be for a lot of people, but there are those for who it is. It really doesn’t hurt to indicate that you are going to be removing people. And if it’s someone you’ve talked to fairly recently, whether in real life or on Facebook, I think a quick PM is appropriate.
At one point, from adding friends of friends of friends, I had over 1000 people, and it was quite annoying. I actually created a new account, left a link for people to add me that noticed, and kept it going for about a month or more. And then I even counted down my closing of the account. Got about 100 people who actually wanted to stay friends.
The only thing I regret is that there were good photo conversations that look really weird without my input.
IIRC, creating a second account is against FB’s terms of service. You can be banned that way. Just a heads up. (I’ve had this happen to friends of mine. It was a real bitch for them to try and get their original accounts back)
Don’t defriend, if they ever click on your profile they won’t be able to see it. Real dick move, if you ask me.
Just hide their updates or put them in a separate friend list so they can’t see much of your stuff. I do this with my family - like my 60 year old newly divorced uncle. He can see my smiling mug but he can’t my political views. It works out nicely.