…I don’t know what to say. That’s just awful, and I’m so sorry to hear it. I’ll be thinking of you both, and reading along if you’ve got something to say. Wish there was more we could do .
I’m really sorry to hear that. My heart goes out to you and your family.
I am so, so sorry. Keep writing (if it helps). My heart goes out to all of you.
I can’t even begin to find the words. I wish I knew your brother more than just from these posts and I hope I get to know you better as the years go by. I’m very impressed by you both and you both have made a place in my heart.
PS - If it helps, have at one of those Times Square folks. Tell them you got a special dispensation for it from me. 
Watching someone die is such a sad, magnificent thing. Sad for all the obvious reasons. But magnificent because those last few weeks gives everyone a chance to come by and unload their heart to a person who is still alive and able to comprehend. How many times have we unloaded our heart to a gravestone because circumstances didn’t permit us to say our goodbyes in person? Cancer, for all the pain it brings, does at least give us that one blessing.
Marley, I’m so very sorry for your loss and for the pain you and your family will endure in the coming weeks.
To Marley’s brother.
My experience (with my uncle and others) is that the hospice is really good with pain management. As in “who gives a rip if he is addicted as long as he is comfortable and addicted”.
YMMV but I expect it won’t.
Regards,
Shodan
I’m so, so sorry, Marley. Words can’t express how much. I’m sitting at my desk in tears for you and your family. May you all find the time and the words to say what you need to.
I’m sorry.
Suits me. I don’t know how much pain he’s in as opposed to discomfort from the coughing, the excess mucus, the fact that his intestines aren’t working well and in general everything is crapping out. I think they’re only getting a few hours of hospice care per day, but a nurse can come when they call for one. They’re going to see if someone can find a spare hospital bed so he can just use one of those to sit up instead of positioning pillows on his bed.
I’m terribly sorry Marley. 
He’s always sounded like a wonderful brother and I can’t imagine what you all must be going through right now. My prayers are with you, him and his loved ones.
I’m so sorry to hear this, Marley. And I’ll say that hospice has been excellent for my great-uncle and all of his immediate family.
Some people and some families never get a fucking break. It isn’t fair.
I am profoundly sorry for all that you and your parents have endured and will endure.
From this pain and darkness you will learn the hardest most bittersweet lessons in life and for each person that goes through such an exquisitely brutal path like you have, the lesson is different. Maybe it is to savor. Maybe it is compassion. Maybe it helping out someone else who is on a similar path and bitter and foundering. It maybe charity. It may take years for the lesson to reveal itself. Learn from this darkness, embrace it. It will wreck you. It the heart of its blackness, know that you wouldn’t have changed a fucking thing and you never shied away when things got bad and you stood your ground when you wanted to run. You held fast. THAT, my friend, it the very definition of courage.
If all you can do in his final days is make your brother laugh, then you have done enough.
Peace.
I’m so sorry to hear this, Marley. If the world was a fair place, no one would have to die so young.
I’m sorry, Marley. I’ve been following your and your brother’s story for awhile, and was hoping hard that he’d beat this. Cancer sucks. Wishing your brother a painless transition and you and your family peace and strength.
God Marley I’m so sorry I just can’t think of what to say and I’m crying too hard to really type much. I was really puling for that guy. He got dealt a lousy hand and played it the best anyone could. He’s a true hero in my mind.
I am very, very sorry to hear this. You have my sincere condolences.
Marley, I’m sorry to hear this. My FIL is going through a similar situation with two tumors and it’s not been easy. Your family is in our thoughts.
Your concern and love for your brother has moved us all, if I may be so bold to say. I hope you are able to find some sort of peace.
Oh, **Marley **- my heart breaks for you. I’ve closely followed your posts about your brother and it’s clear he’s an amazing kid. I’m so sorry for this news.
He’s been a good guy to have as a brother, I’ll say that. He could be moody and stubborn sometimes (which was true even when he was healthy), but he was fun to be with. He was a very good tennis player for a while there. He was impatient on the court but he hit well and it was a pleasure to play with him. His taste in music is really good. I don’t know how much ability he might’ve had as a drummer but damn, I loved jamming with him the few times we got to do it. I definitely could have done with a few more years of that. He agreed we really had a connection musically. We played “I Walk on Gilded Splinters” a bunch of times (he busted out the hand drums for that one), “Jumpin’ Jack Flash” a few times and his version of “Dock of the Bay.” I don’t know how he got into that song exactly. We did some other stuff and some originals, too. He worked out a reggae jam with my dad and they played that one over and over. We had a very heavy jam of our own that we did a couple of times. He enjoyed playing that one. I never quite finished it.
In later years he got very good at making his own pipes. One of the odder things I saw yesterday was my mom holding his pipe for him while he took a hit. He needs a hand with that stuff now.
Oh, and as for dogs - they have three, so he should be set. The old one gets on his bed all the time, and the young one is happy to jump up there, too.
I’m so sorry to hear this news.
The hospice nurses should be able to arrange a hospital bed.