I can tell what a real handsome guy is, but the only twinge of anything that I could ever feel about him is perhaps envy. I’ve got no desire to have sex with another man. Ever. Ick.
Bowie is my one and only male crush! There was never anything sexual about it but I still think of him as “dreamy”.
I’ve never really felt sexual desire against my orientation (straight male), but there are men I consider attractive. I may experiment one day, but I’m pretty secure in my sexual orientation and at this point in time I don’t really wish to venture outside it. (Although I very much consider myself a tolerant person, and a supporter of gay rights; I participated in my high school’s Gay-Straight Alliance and plan to participate in similar groups in college.)
I’ve always figured that the way to know would be to see who you hit on when you’re drunk and you don’t really have much control over it. As it stands, I hit on girls. (I am working on gaining control of myself when I’m drunk, by the way. That has caused me a few problems.)
I’m an equal opportunity…opportunist. If there was mutual attraction, I’d go for it without hesitation.
I’m a gay man, and have never had the slightest sexual response toward a woman. But an **esthetic **response is a different matter. I can spot a hot babe a mile away, and she’ll get my undivided attention (unless there’s a hot man accompanying her). Just this morning I saw a woman with the most unbelievably gorgeous legs, I found myself stopped in my tracks, trying to pretend I wasn’t staring at her.
I have noticed one thing: the type of woman I respond to esthetically is very similar to the type of men I respond to sexually. I don’t mean they’re androgynous, but that they share some of the same qualities.
Nope.
I’m a straight male … straight, but not narrow. I can look at a guy, and determine that he’s attractive or not. However, I can’t contemplate a romantic or sexual relationship, short or long term. Forget arousal. I’m just not wired that way.
It’s really too bad. I’m not having much luck with women, and if I were bi it would increase the pool of potential pertners quite a bit.
Hmmm, I dunno 'bout that, but;
I’ve gotten a tingle a time or two, but always upon seeing a skinny, hairless guy with a cute butt. One who some would call “effeminate”. But that always goes away if we get close (near) or if I think of the actual screwing stuff. I’ve never had a desire to be physical with a man.
Peace,
mangeorge
You are all welcome to tell me I’m crazy, but I don’t find that being bisexual really increases the pool of potential partners. For every person that my bisexuality makes available to me, there’s one or two people who wouldn’t date me because I am.
Maybe I’m just really hideous, though. YMMV.
Are people really that anti-bisexual? It absolutely disgusts me to know that that many people wouldn’t date you just because you were bi. My roommate, who’s bi, says that she sometimes catches crap from both ‘sides’ because people apparently think that being bisexual means you don’t know what you want–which is a load of BS, and is just as bad as judging someone for being heterosexual or homosexual.
Myself, I would probably be more likely to date someone if they were bisexual. It’s another interesting personal trait, and another interesting thing to talk about–and it’s always fun to share those “daaaaaaamn, she is fine” moments with someone who would understand. 
Trust me, fetus, I have caught much crap for being bisexual. After all, I’m a much worse threat to civilation than those homosexuals, because I might end up with some innocent straight guy who thinks I’m normal! WTF? Half the time, I don’t know if I should even tell people, as dishonest as that is. Again, it may be because it’s only cool if really hot girls are bisexual, and I am possibly overreacting. Og knows I’ve had a much easier life (in terms of not being harassed about my orientation) than many people, and I am grateful for that. But the little bit of hassle I do get still bothers me.
I’m mostly certain that I’m heterosexual considering what I’ve seen of homosexual porn is not all that appealing, and in fact is a little off putting. But when i see an exceptionally handsome man or someone with a very cut body I’m compelled to stare though I don’t really feel attraction. I think it has more to do with envy or admiration than attraction. No matter how handsome or well built a man is, I probably would not want to sleep with him.
Admiration for aesthetics and on occasion furious attacks of envy yes :D, but nary even the remotest tingle of desirein 45 years.
No. I can’t tell when men are attractive, only if they’re well groomed. When I see a man on TV with a six-pack etc, I get jealous and wish I looked like that. Does that count?
A lot. I generally don’t find females sexually attractive as much as aesthetically pleasing, but from time to time it happens. I’ve never followed up on the urge and have always only been able to envision myself in relationships with males. A romp or two with a female seems like the stuff of one-night-stands and threesomes.
s others have said, I, as a (I suppose) straight female, find that I will often be admiring of another woman’s appearance, but no, it’s seesm not to be the same as sexual atraction for me. (Of course, maybe I am jsut terribly repressed !)
Really, though, it is hard to explain - I don’t mean like wanting sex with her/them. Neither do I simply mean “oh she is so pretty - I am envious”
And, jsut like another poster said, if I have ever said to a boyfriend, male friend, even brother - “wow - she looks good - what marvellous face/hair whatever…” then I think they do tend to think I am making a subtle announcement.
MInd you, I have also said that another woman was very attractive and I coudl wish I looked like her, only to learn that she was in facr, living as a woman for whatever amount of time it is prior to geneder reassignment surgerty.
Confusing old world!