Today I gave up a promotion for the benefit of someone else. This year I was put in charge of two sites, which meant doing my job plus another half job at the other site. The person who was over there had her job decreased by half. In addition to the financial responsibilities I took on, I also have taken on two more people to supervise which has been no easy task.
My boss put me in for a promotion, one which would have netted me about another 7,000 - 10,000 a year. Personnel got back to us and said that the only way to do it would be to demote the person at the other site.
This woman is in her early 60’s, supporting herself and barely making it. How could I possibly do that to her?
Today I gave up a promotion for the benefit of someone else, did I do the right thing?
We are, each of us angels with only one wing,and we can only fly by embracing one another
Did you post this simply to show that you’ve done something that, when stated as you did, could possibly not be frowned upon, or to actually get our genuine feedback?
I mean, nobody can say that what you did was wrong, and everyone here will most likely agree with you. So why did you post it?
Studi
When I grow up, I want to be the Minister of Silly Walks.
Sue, stop taking on responsibility for the whole world. You deserved the promotion because you did the job better, and don’t try to tell me you didn’t need it as much as she needed the job dammit!
I really try to be good but it just isn’t in my nature!
Knowing Sue personally Studi, I know she honestly posted it for feedback. She is genuine in her concern and care of others; I have been witness to this many times. Her only flaw, is that in her caring about others, it is usually flung back in her face by unappreciative assholes causing her to question why she even bothers to be kind in the first place.
And btw, I don’t happen to agree with what she did. Sometimes niceness isn’t a good thing… sometimes it just perpetuates the doormat treatment.
I really try to be good but it just isn’t in my nature!
Maybe it is the idealist in me, but I like hearing someone rose to make this world a better place, rather than going for the money.
Sue, you didn’t do anything WRONG, and while I do agree that you worked hard and deserved the promotion, I like to think you’ll be well ‘paid’ in how you feel about yourself. You were generous when no one would have expected it of you, or anyone. Congratulations on finding a higher road than most of us would have taken.
“I only use 10% or less of what I study. It’s a waist. sined, Dropout” Up The Down Stair Case
You’re a true sweeheart Sue, but I hope you stop and think about yourself every once in a while too.
If you will get other chances of promotion in the nearby future, you probably did the right thing. It also helps if your current financial status is fine to begin with.
Just don’t give up your earned privileges for everyone, all the time.
Having said that, I think a lot of people could use a bit of your consideration - myself included, probably
Studi do you have to practice to be a jerk or does it come natural?
Sue is a very giving and kind person. People that supposedly are her friends have dumped on her and hurt her more than you could possibly know and yet she still treats them with kindness. Something that I wouldn’t do.
Sue you did the right think. I know that you could use the money, but believe me you will be paid back in full. Most kind deeds are in one way or another. Knowing you the way I do you could not have lived with yourself knowing that you caused someone else harm. I agree fully with what you did.
Why? Because I am also a single parent. Years ago when our company first started downsizing there was a good chance that I would lose my job. My best friend went to her boss and told him that before I got cut to cut her and give me her job, because she was married and had another income she could fall back on. It never came to that, but you have no idea how it felt to know that someone would do that for you. Even though this woman is not your best friend, she knows what you did for her.
Hats off to you Suzie and a big hug.
I’ve learned that if someone says something unkind about me, I must live so that no one will believe it.
Well, it was 7000 - 10,000 Canadian, right? So that’s what…$3.50?
But seriously, good on ya, Sue. I think, though, that the company was pretty unethical to put you in that position. I’d hate to think that, whenever I got a raise, poor Herman the stock boy had to get canned.
Well, that’s their decision and they shouldn’t have burdened you with it. If you’re now doing 1½ times your previous work and she’s doing ½ her previous work then both of you should be compensated accordingly. Personnel should have though of that before the responsibilities were switched round.
Of course, you haven’t done anything wrong, but you should never have been placed in that position in the first place.
Things like this are hard to call either right or wrong,per se. I think what you did was highly ethical, moral, and an act of kindness that I hope the other lady appreciates.
I do agree with everyone who said that your company was completely lame in making you make this kind of decision. They obviously didn’t have the huevos to make it themselves.
Be assured you reap what you sow, so I know good things will be coming your way!
Count me in the group that says that I think you did the right thing, Sue. I’m assuming that all of your needs, and the needs of those who depend on you, are met – they would be your first responsibility, of course. But after that, I agree with those who say you reap what you sow, and that there’s more to this world than getting a promotion and a raise. My mother, God rest her, would say you’ve just earned another jewel in your crown.
