When I was growing up it seemed like every time we would ask for something it was “we didnt have that when I was growing up” and “your so LUCKY, because when I was your age”… la la la.
And it worked. I would feel depressed and ashamed for myself and drop the topic. At least until I got older and I stopped taking it. More on that later.
Ok, I get it. They were poor. Depression era poor. Having to work when you were 10 - poor. I just never understood the reason to always throw things back at their kids and make them feel guilty for wanting things?
Why? Wouldn’t a parent WANT a better life for their kid?
Do you think they were a little jealous?
Or maybe it was just habit and reaction? Like years ago when our first son was born we had made up this really nice nursery for him. We painted, put in nice furniture and all. We showed the pictures to family and while most said they admired our work, others like my grandmother just replied “I never had such nice things for my children”.
After that I avowed to either not let it get to me (like they were too old to know any better) or I would stand up and tell them to quit throwing things back (and it usually got them to stop).
What do you think?
Did your relatives do this to you and how did you react?