What a crack head, I forgot I posted this.
Thanks for the input everyone. He will begoing to a dentist, but the waiting list is 6 months at least…I am working on it.
therealblaze: you lost me
DDG, great input, He was full term, neither he nor I took any medications I can recall, he was an unusually healthy baby. He has probably vomited a dozen times in his whole life ( I thought about that too - the bulemia association) and AFAIK he doesnt grind, it COULD however be the way his bite is lined up. He HAS had chickenpox when he was two, and our city water is flouridated. Thanks for your concern, it is appreciated 
Bingo and Manduck, those possible causes have been eliminated, but thanks
Amarinth: Thank you for the insights, he doesnt drink much pop/soda, and what I can find on the internet suggests heredity as a possible factor as well. I am certain he is not lacking in anything as he eats an excellent diet, and he had blood work last year to eliminate the possiblity of defeciencys (sp) He was sleepy at school, I changed his bedtime, it eventually improved, bloodwork was in acceptable range across the board.
It is MUCH faster to see a doctor than a dentist around here, I will have the doc look at him - great idea!
It is defintiely not just discolored enamel, the enamel is gone, you can trace the edge of it with a finger.
He has one permanent tooth which I check daily, no sign of any trouble with it, there are no signs of cavities either, (so far so good!) The bottom teeth are fine, which leads me to suspect the angle of the bite. As it was the BACKS of the front top teeth that wore off first, it could be the way the teeth meet.
I am also switching him to a softer toothbrush (he uses a normal one now)
Thanks everyone for your input.
Kelli