I know this is probably a far more complicated question than it may appeare, but at this point I’m just looking for a reliable source of ref to find this info.
My situation is:
two kids (7 + 4)
living with mother
shared custody
mother works part time
I work full time
they spend 20-25% of time with me
Two variables:
If she continues to live alone with the kids what is my obligation to her (kids aside) for how long (generally speaking)?
Her boyfriend moves in with her and the kids. What financial responsibilities does he assume for her? For the kids?
Most importantly, what is my legal right as far as making decisions with respect to the kids (since I will retain shared custody, 50%)?
Any other relevant advice would be appreciated as well.
Most US states have child support guidelines, but these can vary significantly by state. If you can let us know what state you’re in, someone can probably post a link to the relvant child support guidelines.
Of course! Thanks. Virginia, Metro DC area.
By the way, I’m not so much looking for the generally accepted formula that the state authorities use (though that would be great!) but what effect the boyfriend moving in will have on my obligations to her.
Keep in mind, I’m not trying to shirk my responsibilities to my kids. It’s the last thing I want to do. They are mine and I love them dearly. It’s just that I don’t want my ex to continue to get a free ride or myself to be taken advantage of.
The boyfriend in the picture means zippo. Does not enter into the calculation, unless they get married. And then that differs, Im sure, from state to state. You may be able to argue some case in front of a judge if the BF was dirty rich and you were under extreme hardship. But I still dont think it makes any difference unless they get married.
Judges don`t like to mess with the child support payment structure.
I’m so sick of lawyers right now… Wrong attitude, I know, but I just need to take a break from them.
I pay her every expense. She does not make enough to put a roof over her head. So I pay all living expenses for her and the kids and the lingirie she orders with my credit cards to wear for the boyfriend.
I’m told the money she makes goes into her living expenses but I’m not entirely certain.
So the boyfriend will be a daily part of my kid’s lives and will certainly be an influence on them but the courts have no interest in that kind of situation. That’s nice. :rolleyes: Will they take an interest if we’re still married when he moves in with her?
However, note that the introduction section explains: “Shared and split custody arrangements are usually more complicated, often involve litigation, and generally include many unique variables. For these reasons, they do not lend themselves well to generic calculators because results can vary widely, and can often be affected by variables not included in a calculator.”