A friend of mine told me recently how he asked out a Mexican woman he knew in Bakersfield, Calif., and she told him she was married. He was taken aback because he had checked for a ring, and not seen any. While mentioning that my friend is no genius when it comes to women (who is?) several possibilities ocurred to me (I should say he didn’t mention if she was a Mexican immigrant or a Hispanic person raised in the U.S.):
1- She was married, but didn’t wear her ring. Possible, but unlikely. I’ve heard of the occasional guy who did this, but never a woman.
2 - She wasn’t married, but wasn’t interested in my friend.
3 - Wedding rings are an “American thing,” and Mexican women (or Mexican-American women who are traditional) simply don’t wear them. Regarding this, I recalled that when i lived in southern Mexico for several months, I never saw a wedding ring on anyone. This may or may not mean anything, since I wasn’t exactly looking most of the time. And when I went to clubs, it was pretty obvious nobody there was married, or they wouldn’t have been there. Also, many Mexican people are very poor, and could never afford an American-style ring with a diamond. This would seem to suggest the custom would never have taken root there, as well.
So, anybody out there have anything to add?