Just dropped in to say Ewwwwwww…
Not really. It’d have to be a really limited set of circumstances that I can’t see occurring in the real world. All the participants would have to be attractive to me, and I would have to be attractive to them. Because you can’t leap into an orgy and then tell one of them no. I mean you CAN, but that’s not something I’d do. I would feel obliged to avoid the whole situation if there was one person who was really ugly or creepy or smelled weird. And I would need to know that all the participants were disease-free. In writing, from a doctor, within the last week. And all the sex would have to be protected, with protection switches between partners.
I just can’t see it happening.
On the surface it sounds awesome, and even thinking deeper I want to say “well yeah, if X, Y, and Z all fell in to place I’d be balls deep in it, but that’ll never happen so no.”
However, when I was in college I invited three hot female (and apparently curious) friends over and we had a few drinks and one kissed another and the third felt left out and started groping someone and before I knew it there was a real live lesbian threesome going on in my living room. It was exactly like you see in porn but it was nothing like you see in porn. One on one in the right circumstances I would have been thrilled to give any one of these girls the most intense 4 minutes of her life, but the sum of it was just too much. It wasn’t the logistics of it, I had an enthusiastic invite from one of the girls and I’m sure I could have just crawled in the middle and been satisfied with whatever happened. Instead I walked out to my patio and smoked a cigarette. I came back in and they wanted to go to my room. I sent them on their way and stared off in to space for the next 20 minutes or so, strangely unaroused, and entirely confused by that. One of them came out and got her clothes and left, then the next, and the next. It was like a walk of shame, no words, no eye contact. I had never known any of them to be bi, and none of them seemed to openly hook up with girls after that.
It seemed a lot sexier the next day and I fantasized about inviting them back over and totally changing their lives with my awesome skills (hah!) and ending up in some steady MFFF orgy club, but I knew this was a one time thing for them and even if it happened I’d still react exactly as I had before. We never really hung out or talked after that night, aside from a cordial “hey” if we accidentally crossed paths.
So yeah, it sounds great but I don’t think I’m wired for it.
A fantasy orgy tailored to my particular tastes? That sounds appealing.
A real-life orgy? I would almost certainly find that unappealing.
Don’t you know what it means to become an orgy guy? It changes everything. I’d have to dress different. I’d have to act different. I’d have to grow a moustache and get all kinds of robes and lotions and I’d need a new bedspread and new curtains I’d have to get thick carpeting and weirdo lighting. I’d have to get new friends. I’d have to get orgy friends. … Naw, I’m not ready for it. [/Seinfeld]
Dude, your Man Card? —> shredder
Yeah, someone who does this needs to get his right to a penis revoked. He is not using it afterall.
I have too many self esteem issues for that many people to see me naked. 
I came here to post that!
Define “orgy”.
Some posters seem to take it to mean a threesome or foursome. To me, neither of those rates as an orgy. I am aware of the shortcomings of reality, but an orgy does appeal to me.
As my friend said: one is masturbation, two is sex, three is a ménage, four is group sex, five and up is an orgy.
I’d give it a shot. Especially if I were the only guy.
I wouldn’t care for a sex orgy. Too inhibited.
Little fun fact: in French, the word “orgie” means a wild and depraved party/feast, Roman emperor style. (see example here from an Asterisk comic book - if you read the speech bubbles, you’ll see the word “orgie” being used to describe the event) Not a big sex free-for-all. When I came to the US for college I mistakenly used the word “orgy” thinking of the French meaning instead of the English meaning, and was quickly corrected.
Woody Allen: I believe sex between two people can be a beautiful thing. Between five, it’s fantastic!
In the last couple months I had the opportunity to do a bit of this (my boyfriend involved at the same time). Once was with another couple who are good friends of ours, and another time was with one of my ex-boyfriends.
Both times ended up going very well, were lots of fun for all involved… and no messy feelings or drama came up from it.
So, it can happen and it can be fun! I never really thought I could ever go through with it myself, but here I am now having had the opportunity to try out group-sex a few times and it was kind of a blast.
No thank you.
female, gay, 53
Well, for me only it if was professionally organized.
You know how the joke goes:
Three couples agreed on orgy in the dark and after a while a mans voice very loudly complains:
"Whoaa folks, let organize this a little more. I just gave three BJ’s and got it twice in the ass.
Maybe, if it were all just right. Especially if they could all be my SO, like a room full of him. Because then they’d all be really attractive and loving and knowing exactly what I like, it would be a lot easier. And a room full of yummy sexy him, yay! But a room full might be a bit confusing (someone else said “lots of elbows”). So maybe two? That would be nice. But I’m not sure how happy he’d be with another one of him having sex with me, so maybe I’ll just stick with the one. Keeps it simple.
There is a small part of me that is interested, but there are far too many ifs and buts.
Me, too. Hell, I strike out in my fantasies.
The handful of times when group sex was on the table (sometimes literally) it honestly was just uncomfortable work. In most guy fantasies, being in a pile of humping bodies would be fun, mostly because they imagine themselves being able to do whatever. In practice, every single one of those other participants has wants and preferences, and a lot of effort is spent in figuring out what’s permissible for whom, under what circumstances, with whom, when, and how.
I suppose if all participants are into multiple parters of either/or sex, then it’s less of an issue, but I never met anyone without hangups, and that most definitely included me. Add in existing pairings, clashing attractions, jealousies, and please-don’t-put-that-there-here-have-a-boob-instead, and you’ve just multiplied the already difficult couple negotiations into a bridge-tournament worth of contracts and subtle negotiations.