Do sexual preferences make one a bigot?

[Procrustus]

@Max_S

It’s not clear to me whether my decision “has to do with sexual autonomy” or if it is too far removed.

IMO, you’re overthinking this. Spend the day with Alice, or spend the day with Bob. It doesn’t matter.

[puzzlegal]

@RickJay

@Max_S

The difference in opinion, if there is one, is that I’m not sure if RickJay would condone calling out or otherwise criticizing said racist.

Not for their personal sexual choices, no. Absolutely never. That’s profoundly immoral and antisocial.

Behaviour matters. Thoughtcrime doesn’t. If someone acts in a racist way that’s subject to criticism - unless it has to do with their sexual autonomy.

Well… I certainly won’t judge you for choosing not to sleep with Alice. But if you had been dating Alice, and broke up with her after you learned that her mother is Black, and that hair isn’t a “jewfro” but an afro, then you know what, i AM going to judge you. Even though it has to do with your sexual autonomy.

I mean, I’m certainly not going to try to force you to continue dating Alice. But I’ll think less of you. And i might call you out on it, and challenge you to change.

[Biffster]

@panache45

I haven’t read the entire thread, so I don’t know whether this question has come up:

Would you prefer a woman with a penis or a man with a vagina?

Neither, to be honest. Does that make me a bigot?

[Jay_Z]

@puzzlegal

Well… I certainly won’t judge you for choosing not to sleep with Alice. But if you had been dating Alice, and broke up with her after you learned that her mother is Black, and that hair isn’t a “jewfro” but an afro, then you know what, i AM going to judge you. Even though it has to do with your sexual autonomy.

I mean, I’m certainly not going to try to force you to continue dating Alice. But I’ll think less of you. And i might call you out on it, and challenge you to change.

How about people that are turned off by the sexual inexperience of their partner? This is certainly something that happens. Has nothing to do with performance or how they act. They just find out that their new partner had fewer experiences than they deem appropriate for someone of their age, and they’re turned off by that.

Prior sexual activity, while is a choice of an individual, is also something that exists “in the past” and is unchangeable as anything else about a person.

So, are people that are judgmental about others lack of sexual activity bigots?

[Crane]

@Max_S

Suppose I’m not sexually attracted to people of a protected class. I really am not sexually attracted to men. Does that make me a bigot?

Of course not. Why is it even a consideration? Bigotry is general and any sexual issues are a subset.

Reasoned avoidance or even revulsion is not bigotry. One may generally avoid sex with livestock on the basis of reason rather than bigotry.

[Max_S]

@Jay_Z

How about people that are turned off by the sexual inexperience of their partner? […] So, are people that are judgmental about others lack of sexual activity bigots?

@Crane

One may generally avoid sex with livestock on the basis of reason rather than bigotry.

Of note, I don’t think either of these categories (virgins and livestock) qualify as protected classes. So neither of these touch on bigotry, per se.

Look just a little bit deeper into what bigotry is and why it is wrong. In the former case we are dealing with choices rather than something immutable like race. In the latter case we aren’t even talking about people.

@Crane

Bigotry is general and any sexual issues are a subset.

I read this as, ‘sexual preferences are one form of (a subset of) bigotry’, but that goes against the rest of your post. So I think I misunderstood this sentence.

@Crane

Reasoned avoidance or even revulsion is not bigotry.

Central to the point I made in my OP is that sexual preferences are not something one reaches through “reason”.

~Max