Another story, that is the opposite of what you want to hear.
My neighbor, a right decent lady who is wonderful in everyway that a neighbor should be, had a crisis in her life a few years ago when she realized that she and her husband could never have children. (Adoption was not an option for whatever reason.)
Anywho, she asked me what I would do if I couldn’t have kids. ( Mind you I was newly preggo’s with #1 but hadn’t told anyone yet.) and I said, " Well, If it isn’t meant to be I have to figure out what I want in life and whether or not Mr. Ujest and I were meant to torture each other for the long run…etc…and then I would do what I love…what ever it is…(for me it is travel, writing and books.)
She hated her job as uber assistant in a big company and decided to go and get her Masters. It took her about 4 years with a near divorce because her husband ( who is a great guy, but a butthead at times) was upset because after nearly 4 years of making his own meals most of the time was tired of it and dammit…he needs some cooking ( He is also 7 years younger than his wife and an only child.)
She was two classes away from quitting her Masters in HR ( if that is the offical title) to cook for her constantly shift-changing husband. ( !!!) Mr Ujest and I had a little talking with her and her husband seperately about sticking to the plan and whatnot and don’t be a butthead at this stage of the game, comprende?
So, she’s one class away from the Master’s and she is " I hope I like what I am paying all this money for…" and I had a sinking feeling that she would not like it.
So, she gets her diploma. Gets hired by some phone company ( not a Major One, but one of the upstarts) and immediately hates her job. I mean the kind where she starts smoking again after 20 years of smoke free and needs (eventually) anti depressants because it is eating her alive. Yeah, good times.
The councelling the Ujests give our neighbor ( and we did say the exact same thing to her and her husband individually (my husband and I and both of them seperate, if that makes sense) was, " You are nuts. Quit and look elsewhere. No job is worth the cost of your health and mental happiness. You can work some BS level job to float some income in until The Big One comes along. Don’t Worry…"
She couldn’t. Can’t quit a job and start looking. Financially, she could if she didn’t have a shoe buying habit that was insane ( at least 100 pair of black shoes and counting!)and a catalogue shopping habit that was nearly out of control. It didn’t help that her husband has a need to have a new car every 12-18 months. ( He works for Ford.) and they always have two car payments going on.
Took her at least 4 years to get another job. She has it handling HR for a local family green house that has several locations. 4 years of her soul being sucked out of her in a company that was bleeding employees…she wasted four years of her life…I cannot comprehend it at all.
Mr. Ujest and I know she is in the honeymoon phase of this new job, but I know it is a matter of time before she hates it again.
She is a wonderful person, but she has baggage and will never be happy in HR.
( she doesn’t do well with conflict.)
Some people are never happy.