Give me a gigantic break. That’s all anyone’s been doing, thread after thread. You just shoot it all down with the blanket response of “Hopelessness, Depression, Aspergers”…
I mean what simple hobbies to take up to spend time?
– Fighting dragons in Runescape
– Talking on SDMB
What else? Could you suggest something?
Exercise?
I do a little.
Any other suggestions? How to fill my lonely and empty time?
I’ll consider giving you a suggestion if you stop using such ridiculous large font and color to emphasize your words.
Tell me about the “little” bit of exercise you do do. What form does it take? How frequently do you engage in it? How long do you sustain it when you are engaging in it? Do you get any sort of enjoyment or satisfaction-however temporary-from your exercise?
Almost none – I am not into physical activity. That is one of the reasons for my weight.
If you don’t want to live with loneliness and emptiness then freaking participate in life, for Crikey’s sake.
If you can’t, or won’t, participate in anything, beyond what you’re presently doing, how can you possibly expect anything to change?
Why can’t you do good works? Volunteer somewhere? Maybe an animal shelter? Mow lawns for old people? Surely there is something you could do!
I doubt I would be permitted to do so – I depend on my parents.
Well, you see, he has to continually coordinate his movement of his left hand on the “WASD” keys, while looking through the game with his mouse in his right hand.
You can burn 3 to 5 calories a day if you’re hard core about it.
Ok, so in response to my suggestion of exercise being one of the things you could do to fill up some of your time, you said you “do a little”. When asked about the specifics of that exercise you claimed you did, you basically said you didn’t do any exercise.
So I’ll re-recommend the exercise suggestion. You were just trying to dismiss the subject earlier. Perhaps you’ve just never found a physical activity that was enjoyable for you.
While I haven’t been following the OP’s situation in precise detail, it seems to crop up in various threads on the board so I’ve become acquainted with some of its details.
From my understanding, the OP is not spiritually happy: he feels his life is going nowhere, has no meaning and he isn’t accomplishing anything valuable. However, he exists in an easy “comfort zone” where he lives with his parents and can play lots of computer games in an environment with few responsibilities.
My feeling to the OP is that you have two choices: you can continue living in your current ways, which are not unenjoyable, but where your progress in life is minimal, or at a standstill, and your happiness only reaches to a shallow level, while deeper, soul-enriching happiness goes undeveloped. If you choose this option, you should make your peace with it and stop regurgitating your “Abandon Every Hope” routine to people whenever the opportunity arises.
If you are constantly portraying yourself as downtrodden to everyone you meet, it is human nature that many people will try to offer you help or advice. But if you aren’t willing to really listen to and take in what they are saying and are just going to keep repeating to them the same miseries of your life ad infinitum, you’re just wasting people’s time and soon they will get annoyed with you.
The other choice is that you decide that you are going to make some changes - improvements - to make your life better. If so, you’ve got try and flick a switch in your mind and get the ball - this stationary moss-covered boulder - moving. Once momentum starts to build up you’ll see the improvements you are making and this will help spur you on to even greater changes. If you take this route then other people will be more willing to you lend you their ears.
You should do more exercise as that is one of the best ways of reducing depression and increasing confidence and self-esteem. Get an exercise mat or something as you don’t even need to leave your room to start exercising and getting your body moving.
Also, in many of your posts you say “at least I’m not a drug addict”, while not appreciating the irony of saying this while you spend all your time in self-pitying misery playing computer games. You’re existing, but you’re not really living.
I will think about it. In any case, the moderators are angry at me on this forum. I should go back to Runescape. A level 112 mithril dragon can destroy a level 7 farmer in one hit. But the these dragons have no chance against a level 135 mage with magic level 99.
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My feeling to the OP is that you have two choices: you can continue living in your current ways, which are not unenjoyable, but where your progress in life is minimal, or at a standstill, and your happiness only reaches to a shallow level, while deeper, soul-enriching happiness goes undeveloped. If you choose this option, you should make your peace with it and stop regurgitating your “Abandon Every Hope” routine to people whenever the opportunity arises.
If you are constantly portraying yourself as downtrodden to everyone you meet, it is human nature that many people will try to offer you help or advice. But if you aren’t willing to really listen to and take in what they are saying and are just going to keep repeating to them the same miseries of your life ad infinitum, you’re just wasting people’s time and soon they will get annoyed with you.
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Actually Americans get annoyed very fast. But I understand that I live unlike the majority of people. Perhaps I should mostly play video games and sometimes visit special forums for people like me – but they are too depressive.
In any case the level 112 dragons are taunting the level 7 farmers – that their protectress (my female avatar) is talking on the forums and will not help them.
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You’re existing, but you’re not really living.
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I agree 100%.
Why don’t you prove to yourself that you’re not a video game “addict” by giving up playing them for a bit and using that time to do something more productive (like exercise)?
I tend to have no hope. Thus I make no effort. No effort in anything.
The farmers are oppressed by level 112 mithril dragons. The dragons expect to have a good meal – but instead they will get water surge spells from me with 99 magic greatly enhanced by super-strong potions.
I’m beginning to understand your hesitancy to discuss your romantic ambitions.
What the hell does this mean? You depend on them for what? To ‘permit’ you to do things? Are you a freaking captive? Or perhaps you have other mental conditions that require fully supervised guardianship?
I can’t believe you’re 45 yrs old! I assumed you were twenty something based on your postings and attitude. Colour me stunned.
I don’t think you’re going to find any help on a message board. Not that you want advice, of course. You just seem to want to sigh heavily and lament about your life choices.
So I’m just going to add, poor poor you! And leave you to it! Good Luck!
Most people 1/4 my age depend on others for everything. Most people twice my age depend on others for everything.
My parents are not legally my guardians but I do not see why I should be ashamed of my disability.
Adolf Merckle was a real loser. None of us can even dream of the wealth he had, yet he committed suicide.