I’ve had a handful, all from nice people, most of whom wanted to ask about my user name and whether I was a fan of E.F. Benson (yes, I am). And it occasionally leads to conversations about his work and the one article I wrote about them. So, no, I don’t mind it.
I forget which of my email addresses I used to sign up for the boards (don’t worry, mods - whichever it is, I do still have access to it!) and this means I don’t always get around to checking whichever address that was. Plus, these days it’s possible for someone’s email to me to get caught in a spam filter or for me to just delete it along with all the real spam.
With PMs, I at least know I’m going to get it. Maybe not today, if I don’t notice the notification, but I’ll get it soon enough.
I’ve written a couple and I’ve gotten a couple (both unsolicited) and I was happy with the system. I’m not turned off by them at all!
I’ve had a grand total of one* person PM me. It didn’t bother me at all, and I hope I was somewhat helpful in what they asked of me. I think I’ve had one* person email me, as well, and I didn’t find that weird at all.
Yeah, one in about 4 years of membership. I’m just not all that popular.
I like PMs. It’s a slightly more personal way to communicate. I don’t mind e-mails, either. If I got one (of either) which was not nice – and to be fair to, I never have – I would just disregard it. But I like to hear from other people here.
Sure, I’ve PM’ed with several folks, some of which led to e-mail, and I made some new friends in the process. I don’t mind if you want to talk to me off the boards.
Now, firing off a message to someone under false pretences, or totally ignoring what they’re actually doing in pursuit of your own agenda, are kinda skeevy, but a simple “I think you’re kinda neat, wanna meet?” doesn’t seem so to me. If I was uninterested, I’d simply say no.
I have been in several flurries of PMs lately, and it’s been good. But those all arose out of threads on the boards. I probably wouldn’t send a PM to someone I had had no other interaction with.
I don’t mind PMs or emails.
One of the things needed, actually, to play mafia games on here is to have PMs enabled, but even before then, they were (for me).
I don’t get many PMs that are sent first but I do get a lot returned and replied to that I send out (that being said, I don’t send many out either, but the few I have (mostly to past mafia players about my new game that started) have been replied back to very nicely).