Do you think of Dopers as your friends?

fisha, I’ll just echo you with Beaucarnea, being a wonderful person who always amazes me with putting exactly in words what my tentative Net self never is capable of. As in her above post; Gracious, including, and perfectly voiced. She’s just a Peach, all said, and a muy smart one to boot. It’s wonderful to see/read another person’s words, and feel that kind of solid kinship.

When I read these forums, I really think of the typing as being from real people with feelings, and carefully consider what people say before I respond,(except when I’m a WiseAss, but that’s usually with politics). I’m older in years, so didn’t grow up with the Nets being a yammer-fest, still view the written word as carefully considered.

Wondering: is the carefully considered aspect of it a thing of the past? And, does that have an effect on thinking of on-line folks as “friends”?

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Wondering: is the carefully considered aspect of it a thing of the past? And, does that have an effect on thinking of on-line folks as “friends”?
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Interesting questions – which I don’t know the answers to.

Mostly just wanted to say how flattered I am to have been mentioned in Beaucarnea’s lovely post.

[QUOTE=fisha]
Beau, I always think of you as the better, nicer version of myself. We have a lot in common, it’s eerie.
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[QUOTE=elelle]
It’s wonderful to see/read another person’s words, and feel that kind of solid kinship.

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Oh, you guys… :slight_smile: . Listen- my car is imported and my beer is domestic. I have stainless steel appliances, I have never seen an episode of Lost, I come from artistic geniuses and I can’t draw a stick figure. I commit misguided social activisms like avoiding imported exotic produce, and Wal-mart and I’ve been boycotting the comics page for years (until Calvin and Hobbs or The Far Side returns). In early Spring I carry cold bees to flowers, I spend Summer molesting my vegetable plants, Fall finds me in mourning from the moment the first starlings flock, and come Winter I do nothing more than follow the sunbeam around and lie about on the floor. And fisha, forgive me, but after 30+ years of keeping hobby aquariums, I do not have a marine tank, or even a brackish one. I have orandas: a couple of bubble jockies who spend the majority of their day bumping into the clear wall of the tank. (d’oh!) I’m a hack- I truly am.

But if you are ever near the AT and you don’t mind sharing space with a circus-sizes dog and a couple of homely cats, you have a partially remodeled roof over your head, a plateful of organic goodies, and a houseful of electronic entertainment options that would impress the Jetsons. (thank you, Crutchfield boyfriend!)

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When I read these forums, I really think of the typing as being from real people with feelings, and carefully consider what people say before I respond,(except when I’m a WiseAss, but that’s usually with politics). I’m older in years, so didn’t grow up with the Nets being a yammer-fest, still view the written word as carefully considered.

Wondering: is the carefully considered aspect of it a thing of the past? And, does that have an effect on thinking of on-line folks as “friends”?
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Me, too. This is the first and only message board/ IM/ cyber interaction that I participate in, and it is my habit to assume that much of what is written is a fair reflection of the author. This is a great learning format- it is painless to skim topics and since cites are so frequently provided, very reliable. But beyond merrily plodding along and gleaning bits of knowledge here and there, I am truly moved by the generosity and honesty of some of the posters. Whether sharing embarrassing medical experiences, confessing social blunders, or divulging personal struggles and triumphs, the candor I have seen here is truly heartening. (I’ll thank faithfool and Anaamika here.)

Hey, I’m a gardener as well as a pet-lover! I want to talk plants with the other dirty fingernail types!

I wish. I’ve had a couple friends here, but they’re gone now. Mostly I’m just a thread-killer now, although I’d like to make friends here.

I wish. I’ve had a couple friends here, but they’re gone now. Mostly I’m just a thread-killer now, although I’d like to make friends here.

I should add that most of the people here are the rare, exceptional kind of people I wish I could make friends with irl.

Hmm…Friends don’t let friends twist in the wind…er…kill threads.

Here’s to your next swell post, wonderlust! :slight_smile:

I counted aha a friend, one of the reasons I wish I knew what happened to him.

Crap, carnivorous plant is too dang good with his Sarraceniousness not to do another deep breath here…Lessee what happens in some good stance…

[QUOTE=elelle]
Crap, carnivorous plant is too dang good with his Sarraceniousness
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When puns are outlawed… :slight_smile:

[QUOTE=carnivorousplant]
I did until my name didn’t come up in this thread.

Byzantines.

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Canaanite lover!

[QUOTE=NoClueBoy]
Canaanite lover!
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Burgundian breath!

[QUOTE=carnivorousplant]
Burgundian breath!
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Janeway fan!

:eek:

[QUOTE=NoClueBoy]
Janeway fan!

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Treker Misogynist!

I like large breasted Vulcan women …

[QUOTE=NoClueBoy]
I like large breasted Vulcan women …
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Dear Readers: Insults will be temporarily halted while your correspondent determines if “misogynist” is an inter-species term.

I don’t interact with any other Dopers enough to consider any of them friends, not even acquaintances really. I do have some very good friends that I’ve met online but not yet IRL though, and I met my husband through an MMO, so I certainly think it’s possible to be close to someone you’ve never met IRL.

[QUOTE=Beaucarnea]
featherlou, SnakesCatLady, Fisha, Scubaqueen, TroubleAgain, Dung Beetle, anyrose, and all the other domestic animal pro spay and neuter rescue nuts should stop by for tea and cat hair anytime.

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Wow. This just really lessened the pain of Monday morning. I’m sitting here getting tears in my eyes and feeling hugged. Thank you! :slight_smile:

[QUOTE=Shirley Ujest]
You betcha, baby. Just lookee at my post count.
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You must come from very energetic stock.

I respect your mind AND your DNA !!!

Yeah, I do consdier some Dopers to be friends. OTOH, I would likely find it rather dangerous to met up with various Dopers at a party or picnic. --shrug-- Like any other part of life. Good with the bad.

Cartooniverse

[QUOTE=Dung Beetle]
Wow. This just really lessened the pain of Monday morning. I’m sitting here getting tears in my eyes and feeling hugged. Thank you! :slight_smile:
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Me, too! I wish I’d actually seen this on Monday when I really, really needed the hug!

(I apologize for bumping a 4 day-old thread, but I just had to acknowledge this!)

I do think of many of you as friends. Some of you are acquaintances. And some of you are that annoying guy in the cubicle down the hall that I can’t get away from. :wink: