Wanting to be involved romantically with people who share your cultural background is default. There’s no universal superiority implied in such a preference since it’s what’s expected of everyone. OTOH, those with a checklist of the races they find attractive are absolutely racist by definition.
Dunno about ‘absolutely’ but yeah – if they’re writing off all the dark-hued races in preference for Caucasian and/or Asian peoples, I’d have to agree it was at least an extreme prejudice at work. Moderate ethnocentrism is default. Extreme ethnocentrism married to xenophobia and hate is a recipe for bigotry and racism.
“Does not being attracted to a certain race make one a racist?”
Consider the converse: Does being attracted to a certain race make you not a racist?
Don’t bet on it. Remember the revelation after Strom Thurmond’s death that he had a daughter by his family’s black maid? Plenty of segregationists, slave owners, and other people who are racist by any measure have enjoyed “dark meat on the side”. Otherwise the US wouldn’t have so many light-skinned blacks.
Sexual attraction and prejudice are separate cognitive categories. You can be aroused by people you despise. You can greatly admire people without feeling a flicker of attraction. I wouldn’t extrapolate someone’s morals from their sexual tastes unless their tastes run to something inherently immoral (like toddlers, or shagging drugged girls, or cannibalism). Being attracted to people of your own race doesn’t strike me as any more inherently immoral than attraction to people of your own height, or intelligence level, or for that matter your own gender. Being attracted to people of a different race doesn’t mean you’re a nice non-discriminatory person, either.
It all depends on whether you’re a racist who still buys into blood purity or the evils of miscegenation. While miscegenation isn’t as common or taboo as it once, I think anyone still holding on to that philosophy of anti-race mixing has a pretty good indicator of being a racist, since that is a major underpinning of old-fashioned racist thought.
On the other hand, if you don’t happen to buy into miscegenation, you can still admire racial beauty and still be a racist.
Still no problem. I assume we’re not talking about someone who’s into racial purity or is claiming superiority or some such folderol. I see no reason to think that one person’s personal preference for apples implies he harbors any ill will for oranges or those who eat them.
I had a white freind who had only had serious dating relationships with black women. He didn’t have anything against white women, found them attractive, and did have a date or two with them here and there, but he mostly just dug black chicks … up until the point where he married a Bolivian of Korean ancestry.
I am quite confident my freind had no self-loathing against himself and/or the white race. He was just mostly attracted to black women. I see no reason to assume anything pernicious in that, or in the opposite.
The category of people brownie55 is willing to date could be even broader than that. A person of any race or ethnicity has the option of converting to Judaism, if he or she wants to do so. There are about 200,000 people in the US who have converted to Judaism, and I’m one of them.
I always noticed that preference for a race always seems to be more tolerated than hatred for a race, which is pretty stupid in my opinion. Ofcourse attraction to a race is racist. Otherwise I don’t hate Black people, I just loooooooove everyone else so much more. I especially like White people. That’s why I hire so many of them. In fact, I don’t even have room for anyone else. I mean, I have Black friends and acquitances, cuz hey, I got plenty of room for that. But darn it, I can only hire so many people, and there’s just so many White people around.
And I hold love/relationships/marriage to be even more important than occupation, so yes, I’m even more disgusted by racial preferences in that area. Now, do I have racial preferences? Yep. I like Latina and Asian girls. Grew up with them, which I think is why I prefer Latinas to Asian girls, even though I’m Asian myself. Do I shy away at any other race? Nope. Am I still racist? Yep. It annoys me when people are more concerned about being labeled a racist than racism itself.
And another thing is that the insistence of sexual preference to a race is the same as sexual preference to a hair color/height/weight is so dubious. It’s just like the argument against race-crime laws where they ask, “Well, then, why don’t we make laws protecting left-handers?”
Because they are sinister people.