That depends really - Can you afford to eat take-away every night? Is it properly prepared meals from somewhere or heart attack inducing Maccy Ds? et cetera…
There’s no straight answer to this, and its the same with the cleaning issue. We all have different personal tolerances for things, different boredom thresholds for certain tasks, and our own peculiar nuances that need to be catered for - there’s no ISO standard for room cleanliness, only a compromise between two (or more) people who are are forced to inhabit the same space.
So basically you’re a freak for wanting things so clean, and he’s a freak for wanting to eat takeaway every night. Don’t worry though, you’re in good company - because we’re all freaks.
There’s always going to be stuff you think needs doing that he doesn’t and things that he feels are important which you don’t. The trick is identifying them and getting them out in the open quick enough so that they don’t turn into some kind of simmering unspoken dark undertone that in years to come leads to you doing him in with a bread knife in a dust-related beserker fit thats been brewing for almost half a century.
Once its out in the open, standards that are a compromise between both parties can be agreed and everyone wins. Maybe take-aways at weekends are the way to go, for example, when lazy time should be preserved and food should be cooked during the week to keep costs (and weight!) down. Maybe a quick cleanup is fine once a week with a full dusting only necessary once a month. Maybe he agrees to your definition of room cleanliness and in return you agree to one of his standards on something else in return.
The key is that whatever is agreed must be a compromise (or trade) that both party’s are happy with (or can at least tolerate). That way both sides know what is minimally acceptable and arguments can be avoided. On the flip-side, it also provides a handy pointer as to what activities can be used for bonus points or as get out of jail free cards with the other person.
The hard part, of course, is finding compromises everyone agrees on or in some cases even convincing some people that compromise is actually necessary. It constantly amazes me that some people, despite being reasonable and open-minded in all other areas, have a completely unshakeable belief that their definition of what counts for household standards is absolutely and totally correct. Period.
My gut tells me that you’re not one of those people though, and with any luck your lad isn’t one either. Besides, its always worth remembering that you do have one powerfully persuasive argument for compromise if he is like that - by some magical freakiness of nature, a girl’s inny bits are a very warm and pleasant fit for a boy’s outy bits. Given how much time we boys spend trying to find interesting and enjoyable places to put said outy bits (or at least thinking about it), its hardly surprising really that we’re generally prone to compromising on things quick-sharp when our access to said inny bits is placed in jeopardy.
Slightly off-topic. An interesting (and lighthearted) way of tracking chores is Chore Wars - which lets you set up jobs as RPG type quests with XP and everything. Discussing how much XP a task should carry can also be an interesting way of gauging how difficult/boring people regard different tasks, which can help if you’re looking to trade some standards rather than compromise.
It also includes the ability to set up “special items” which have a percentage chance (which you can set) of dropping when the activity is carried out.
One of the lasses i work with here cunningly took advantage of this in order to get her husband off his arse to do the weekly vacuuming - she set up a “blowjob” item that had a 1/10 chance of dropping whenever he completed the weekly vacuum.
Says her house has never been cleaner.