Does your marriage have its own version of the "same old argument that never resolves," and if so, what is it?

I have come to see the wisdom in an old saying:..“The opposite of love is not hate,…but indifference”. The real rock -bottom attraction my wife sees in me is that I will not abandon her. I am guessing that is what gets her out of bed in the morning.

I am sorry to hear that. I think the opposite of love (as it pertains to marriage or similar) is contempt.