I grew up in a household where domestic roles where well defined. My father felt that it was not seemly for my mother to clean toilets. That was man’s work. As was vaccuming and any moving of furniture that entailed. Dusting, cooking, laundry and general tidying was my mother’s job. Washing dishes was my father’s responsibility in gratitude for the cooking my mom did. My dad was willfully incapable of anything more than putting on the tea kettle and making toast. Left to his own devices, my father would probably only eat food that did not require cooking or preparation of most any kind past removal of the packaging.
I acquired similar values. Toilettes, vaccuming, dishes are duties I perform without much thought or question. In addition, I’m no stranger to laundry and actually quite enjoy it. Tidying and dusting are things I readily pass off to my partner. Cooking, however, is something I’ve learned to do well from my mom and continue to enjoy the most. I’m willing to toss a coin with regards to cleaning the kitchen. It’s got to be done as part of a clean and healthy environment but I’m quite happy to let my partner take the lead on that one.
I even enjoy ironing most of the time. But baking? Now that’s women’s work!