Being sexy to me means that you dress, act, or speak in a way that makes me want to caress my hands all over your body or lay you back on your desk and f*** you.
Well, what? What’d you expect: something intelligent or philosophical?
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ME! 
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I wish it was easy to define
But personality is always a plus.
My definition of what is sexy changes with the wind. I have fairly unconventional tastes - the guy that usually gets passed over by a lot of women will strike me as completely and hopelessly sexy and attractive. There’s just something under the surface - something I’ve yet to identify - that draws me to certain people. The old cliche is “a good sense of humor” but the ability to make me laugh is key; the ability to make me think is even hotter, and there’s just something about a sly, impish smile that makes me weak.
Superficially though, I think that Adrian Paul is sexy, as is Angus McFadden (Robert the Bruce in Braveheart). The Italian guy from “Love, Actually” (the one that the girl with the brother lusted after) was heartrendingly sexy… I almost died when he took his shirt off.
Part One: The Shallow
Beards or goatees
Not a deal-breaker, and it doesn’t work for every guy, of course, but when it does work, dang! And when I see a guy who’s normally clean-shaven has grown a beard, I do the Wilma Flintstone double-take with accompanying sound effect. Which is yet another reason why I would be a bad contestant on “Survivor.”
Glasses
Something about how they imply intelligence, bookishness, or excessive masturbation, is just really sexy. Especially if it’s a guy who doesn’t wear them normally but shows up wearing a pair, or a guy who wears them normally and has taken them off.
Chest Hair
Okay, sue me. It turns me on.
Eyes
Not just having them, although that’s a definite plus. But having intense eyes, that look like if he had heat vision you’d have been toasted five minutes ago.
Part Two: The Not Quite As Shallow
Intelligence and Sense of Humor
Listed together because neither is good enough on its own. I don’t care how smart you are, you’re still not sexy unless you can laugh at a guy getting hit in the nuts with a dodgeball.
Maturity
Other people keep saying “confidence,” but confidence and arrogance I can never quite distinguish in another person until it’s already too late. I’m talking about a person’s being basically comfortable with himself, ready to acknowledge his faults but not wallowing in them. And maturity about sex as well – recognizing that it’s nothing to be ashamed of, but it’s nothing to be particularly proud of, either, it’s just something people enjoy doing and is one of the rare activities that’s almost as fun if you do it wrong as it is when you do it right.
Variable Hipness
There are plenty of people who are too geeky to the point where it’s a tedious obsession, and there are those who are too cool for school and refuse to talk about anything nerdy for fear of looking uncool. And there are those who are just right, and that’s sexy.
So it is written, so it shall be.
Intelligence and a sense of humor are a given, but the sense of humor has to be abrasive, and, even more importantly, he has to be able to appreciate my sense of humor. Self confidence is another given, but assertiveness and a touch of arrogance are a big plus. That and a sense of potential ruthlessness. And he’s got to be highly articulate. In other words, sweet, sensitive nice guys need not apply.
Zoinks! Sorry about that Czar. I’ll watch it. (didn’t even think about it :smack: )
Unsexy: Brad Pitt, Orlando Bloom, etc. - Hollywood hotness. Blonde hair.
Sexy: Skinny tall cute look, genuinely messy (not “blowdried & tousled with $40 gel”) hair.
Unsexy: Using lots of words with “ism” or “ist” in them as a mark of intelligence. Relativism.
Sexy: Scientific curiosity.
Unsexy: Nerdiness - i.e., total social ineptitude (as distinguished from shyness.)
Sexy: Geekiness - i.e., strange and total fascination with some field or other - sf, computers, obscure historical periods/figures, etc.
Unsexy: Indifferent about beliefs.
Sexy: Critical thinking.
Unsexy: Music/art/literature snobbery.
Sexy: Diverse tastes.
Unsexy: Contacts.
Sexy: Glasses or 20/20.
Unsexy: Slapstick sense of humour.
Sexy: Dark ironic sense of humour.
Unsexy: Chivalry.
Sexy: Radical feminism.
…a girl can dream…
Intellectual curiousity and charm.
The ability to flirt.
The ability to laugh at life and at yourself.
An appreciation of irony and wit.
Wouldn’t hurt if you’re six foot, either! (men)
Wouldn’t hurt if you found me sexy and showed it (see flirting)…
I find the this varies with the wind at times–maybe it’s caprice is what is so fascinating for all?
Ooh, tough one. I could give a long, drawn-out answer, but I have work to do, so I’ll just hit the high points …
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[li]Sense of humor is an absolute must. There’s nothing sexier than someone who makes me laugh.[/li][li]Intelligence. I can’t have a conversation with someone who doesn’t understand me, and while I may find many different physical characteristics sexy, I need a little bit of mental stimulation, as well.[/li][li]Honesty. Not “Yes, you look fat in that dress” honesty so much as “No, I’m not fucking your best friend” honesty. (Um, yeah, I’ve been burned, why do you ask?)[/li][li]Shoulders. God, I loves me a good set of shoulders.[/li][li]Sincerity. Slightly different than honesty, but still important.[/li][li]The ability to know what the hell I’m talking about when I say something like “Jesus Saves–everyone else roll for damage.”[/li][li]The ability and willingness to make a complete fool of himself in public.[/li][li]And, finally–the sexiest thing a man can do is think I’m sexy. :)[/li][/ul]
Just debating whether to answer here, or over in the Is He/She Your Type? thread. I suppose, with no current SO, it’s better off here, eh?
Common Interests. This is the big one - because it’d be hard for me to be interested in someone who I’d never be able to have fun with. If you like what I like, then we’re halfway home.
Humor. It’s cliche, but I’m a comedian at heart so it’s actually very important for me. I have a quirky, offbeat, all-encompassing sense of humor. I find humor in nearly everything, and drop pop culture references like Hansel and Gretel drop breadcrumbs. Someone who finds that annoying or even uninteresting - just isn’t going to mesh well with me.
Geek Factor - Combines a bit of the both above, really, plus a few extras. Someone’s who is a slick, mature professional - is probably too “cool” for me. Have to be able to be silly, occasionally mildly obsessive, and glasses are a huge plus.
Height - Women taller than me are a bit of a turn-off.
Skin - Medium Well at most, let’s not over-tan, ladies.
As for the actual nuts and bolts of personality beyond what I’ve mentioned, I’m not sure. I’ve found myself infatuated with shy, quiet types … as well as outgoing, dynamic types. More research is necessary, clearly.
What is sexy to me?
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Women who wear short skirts and boots in the winter.
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Lisa Loeb’s glasses.
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Sarah Silverman
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Women playing over-the-top villainesses.
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The little curl in Jaclyn Smith’s hair over her eye when she turned in the opening Charlie’s Angels credits.
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The curves of a woman’s leg. Her calves. Her thighs when she stands.
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A woman’s smile.
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A woman’s well-manicured fingers
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Cheerleading outfits.
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Swimsuits, but not necessarily a bikini.
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Lynda Carter’s naive charm as Wonder Woman.
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Anytime Diana Rigg acts coquette-ish as Emma Peel in “The Avengers.”
Glasses are hot.
Geeks are sexy.
Women who read as much as I do, or more… yowza.
Willingness to go camping with me, and be happily miserable- wow.
I guess, basically, I want a geek who’s gone half-blind from reading too much, and still likes the outdoors.
Independence. I want a guy who is happy on his own, and does not need me to complete him. Interested is good. Desperate is not. Give me my space, dammit! (Boy problems? Me?)
On the shallow side - good forearms are a bonus. In Help!, when George Harrison is riding around on a bicycle with his sleeves rolled up just so… Sigh. A good voice is always a plus - Patrick Stewart’s sexiness comes mainly from his voice. And geekiness is always sexy.
Oddly enough, I don’t seem to have a height preference. Tall, lanky guys can be incredibly sexy. On the other hand, I could do a thousand dirty things to Peter Dinklage if given the opportunity. A good-looking guy is a good-looking guy, whether he’s three feet tall or seven feet tall.
Sexy, eh?
Hrm…well, on a superficial level, I rather like natural redheads (at least in concept) and I’m a big fan of curvy women. Tall’s nice, tho’ I’m not sure if I’d like the lass to be taller than I am (6’). That said, it’s never been an issue, so I’m not entirely certain how I’d deal with it. Dark-rimmed glasses are also a plus, although I’m at a loss to explain that one.
Beyond that, I like strong women. Lionnesses, if you will. Uma Thurman’s character in Kill Bill is a personal favorite, although I’m not really a fan of the way she looks. I get turned on by intelligence, as well: smart, capable, independent…these are all good things to me (mix this in with the redhead bit, and you’ve got a crush on Allyson Hannigan. Yeah. Corny, isn’t it?). “Loving” and “trustworthy” are key, as well as her being a genuinely good person. Evil’s a pretty big turnoff, for me.
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