Dream Lady Never Replied To My Email

Now just to be clear, this lady doctor at Harvard was soliciting emails about people’s dreams. And I thought I was being nice enough to give her some input along these lines. But she never replied. Why?

Here, in any event, is the email that I sent her:

I don’t know if you’d be interested. But I have a lot of interesting dream phenomenon. I don’t know where to begin.

Mostly my dreams are variations on a theme. And often they involve things that could never be in real life.

One involves a restaurant that only exists in my dreams. Sveden House Buffett has never had a restaurant in Detroit. But I sometimes dream there is one on Mcnichols and Stansbury streets near my house (I live in NW Detroit). I have many early memories of going to SH as a child. But as I said, the franchise chain has always been in the suburbs. Yeah, when I’m asleep, I believe the dream restaurant really exists. But as I wake up, I realize that this isn’t true.

I also keep dreaming I am taking this college course. Coincidentally it is held in a grade school building, presumably for the space. As I’m asleep, I realize I’ve done none of my work (which is true–the place doesn’t exist). Only when I wake up do I realize it’s only a dream.

Yeah, dreaming in serial and recurring themes. It happens often to me. There may even be some places in my dreams that I am not even aware of in my awake world. I do have that vague impression. Don’t ask me to explain it.

One time I dreamt that they exhumed my maternal grandmother and found they could revive her. Now, my grandmother died when I was barely three. So I never got to know her as an adult. How thrilled was I that I would. And how disappointed was I when I woke up and found out it was only a dream.

Another recurring dream is my Christmas in July dreams. I had one recently. There was snow outside my bedroom window, and the window was open. There was even snow on my bedroom floor. Yet I didn’t feel cold. It happens every year, the dream that is, as I said.

I do have a couple of dream journals on steno pads and note books. They are from a couple of decades ago, I have to tell you. I also have compiled a list of fantasy places, that also mainly come from my dreams. This last one was even saved on my PC. I have to warn you, it is kind of wild and imaginative (as am I).

Also, I only check my email once a week on average. But I will be awaiting your reply. I have a lot to share, I have to tell you.

James~

Now why then did she never even reply to me? Even to tell me that she was not interested? As a doctor friend of mine said, replying would have at least been the polite thing to do. Am I wrong?

Anyhow, does anyone know any other person who would be interested in dream phenomenon?

(Now just to be clear again, she was soliciting emails about people’s dreams. And although I am not a moderator, it still goes without saying, please be civil and nice in your replies :slight_smile: .)

Perhaps you only dreamt you sent an e-mail?

People who study dreams are called oneirologists. Not sure if you signed up for an actual research study, but it is possible you simply were not selected as an experimental subject.

Did her solicitation message say that she would have follow up questions for everyone who contacted her? What exactly was she asking for?

Your dreams are unremarkable in my opinion.

Perhaps she just didn’t see anything interesting there to follow up on.

Where did she solicit dream emails? Perhaps she received so many there was no way to respond to all of them? Perhaps yours ended up in spam by accident?

Well, I eat at a buffet restaurant. Clearly my life (and my dreams) aren’t very interesting :wink: .

I’d think a reply would be unlikely unless she thought your dreams fit whatever her criteria was. Depending on where she solicited these responses, she may well have received thousands, maybe tens of thousands, of replies. And of course you know she wasn’t personally reading through every reply, right? That’s what RA’s are for. With limited funding, neither she nor her team would have wasted time replying to each person who submitted dreams.

This is assuming she really IS a Harvard researcher. (Incidentally, why do you say “lady doctor”? Why not just “doctor”?) Did the email address contain “harvard.edu”?

@nelliebly Yes, it was a valid email address.

Then the rest of my response applies.

The thread title is a joke, get it? So it’s relevant to mention that the Dream Lady he wrote to is a lady.

Oh, I got the joke, but the thread title and the feminine pronouns the OP uses make “lady doctor” redundant.

Stereotypes take a while to die, and while we are getting there, we aren’t there yet. When people say “doctor” a non-insignificant number of people picture a male. By saying “lady doctor” you provide the reader with additional detail that allows the person to get a more accurate picture in mind.

My point stands: the feminine pronoun makes it very clear that the OP believes the doctor is a woman.

Your dreams sound incredibly mundane and common, I’m not sure why you think she’d be interested in them or what “phenomenon” you think is happening. Unless the survey was to find out how common a particular dream was.