You wear fancily-named pajama bottoms - with a dress shirt and tie?
Huh, it turns out there are some fashion crimes beyond the pale for me, personally…
… and I say this as someone who works in an office where t-shirt, shorts and thongs is generally perfectly fine wear - for the GM even (not me, but just because I don’t wear thongs).
These exist for men, too.
No, no. No tie.
Sorry, I was going by this:
Can I ask why this is a thing? What’s so godawful about it? I pulled out an old denim jacket the other day and my wife practically ripped it off of me. “You are NOT wearing that with jeans!!”
Um, wut?
Denim on denim isn’t necessarily a fashion faux pas - but it absolutely can be if the pants and jacket/shirt are too close in color. Faded jacket and dark pants or vice versa is OK. Just like wearing a black jacket and black pants will look bad if they match too closely but not exactly.
I guess the thing I don’t get about it is that denim is ubiquitous. For example, wearing blue slacks and a red shirt would be jarring. But blue jeans and a red shirt - totally acceptable.
To me denim is invisible. in 2014 GQ says it’s OK, I guess styles change.
ETA: I found this.
I think that might be why you don’t understand what I mean- if both pieces match so that it looks like a one-piece garment or an actual suit, it will be fine. If the pieces are very different in color , it will be fine. There’s a big space in between , where it won’t be fine. Imagine someone wearing a red T shirt and red shorts - just because they are both red doesn’t mean they look good together, right? Probably not unless they were bought as a set and always cleaned together so the fading is exactly the same.
I noticed in your links that either the denim was the same color or it was obviously different - none of them looked like the top and bottom started out the same color but one got washed a few more times. I don’t know how the jackets and pants you wanted to wear matched up but there’s a thing I’ve noticed with some people where they think as long as everything is different shades of the same color they match. Red shirt, red shirts, red socks - three different shades, but they are all red- must look OK together, right? Nope.
At my last job I worked in the back room – one of the dozen or so people who were allowed to wear denim. We had to stick to the “black trousers only” rule that everyone else had to follow, though. As a result all of the jeans I currently own, with the exception of one blue pair, are black.
This exact thing happened to me 7-8 years ago, except it was at an immigration office (a friend was taking his citizenship oath). My suit was definitely worth less than $600.
Well, no one ever accused me of being a fashion maven.
Ha, now I want to edit my 12 year old post by spelling ‘denim’ right both times, and putting the quotation mark after ‘faux-pas’ since I don’t believe it myself. But I’d agree with doreen that the same shade for top and pants is not the best.
Since my post my workplace has moved from no jeans, to casual Friday jeans, to jeans are perfectly ok.
And here we’ve come full circle: a suit.
Fair.
Yes and no. There’s a difference between “these two pieces are manufactured to go together” and “these two pieces are made of the same type of material and the same-ish color”. The second can lead to fashion faux pas like slightly different hue or uneven wear.
Holt shit! I hate “fashion”, and here I am talking about “fashion faux pas”! Ok, it’s time to get off the boards for a while.
LOL! 2x
Think your work dress code is bad?
In June our job decided to sponsor an “Employee Water Park Trip” as part of a “team building/employee satisfaction” thing. Basically we’d all go to a local water park, work would pay for admission and they’d have free food for us.
Guess what, we never actually went on that trip because we had TWO, HOUR LONG, MEETINGS about what was “Appropriate Dress Code” for the water park. Basically it was supposed to just be a five minute “Okay since it’s still technically work let’s just not go too crazy with the swimsuits okay?” meeting but instead half the women on my team all asked questions if their swimwear was appropriate or not and many surprisingly wound up being denied permission to wear something which then lead to arguments of “If this employees swimsuit was okay why wasn’t mine?!”. That meeting took an entire hour with only half the people asking questions being approved, the second half would be hashed out the next meeting.
Next meeting came, took an hour, and the other half of people kept getting denied and raised such a drink they literally postponed the trip and eventually it was completely canceled.
Hey, with a drink like that, who needs a trip?
Where do you work? A church? A strip club? What the fuck were these women intending to wear?! This just seems so crazily wrongheaded, that an employer would even consider an outing for a water park, and then expect to impose/recommend some dress code other than whatever the water park imposes.
BTW - did I mention how much I dislike “team building” functions?
A corporate water park trip seems a really bad choice in the first place.
Many years ago someone organized a wall climbing “team building” event. The organizer and a couple of her buddies turned up in specialist climbing gear (spandex and special shoes). The rest of us were in jeans, t-shirts/polos and sneakers (maybe running shoes for some). After about 15 minutes of paperwork and lectures then 15 minutes of ineptitude, most of us just sat three watching three young women in our team in skin tight clothing climb impossible walls and trash talk each other.
Aftermath was a lecture in inclusiveness from our HR team.
One of the things my father told me, when I was a little sprout, was: “You absolutely must own at least one suit. You never know when you might have to go to a funeral.”