I’d like to try. I am in no way saying that these teenagers are at fault for the cause of the accident. What I am saying is that they shouldn’t have been (at least in the case of the 15 and 16 year olds) in that situation to begin with due to a curfew.
I do also realize that curfews are broken all the time by young people, and most of the time, nothing happens.
Parents also have some small culpability because they are either not enforcing a law that actually protects their children, or the teenagers lied to their parents in some type of “I’m spending the night at so-and-so’s” scheme, so then they get a meagre parcel of “blame”.
It’s sad, it’s tragic, the drunk driver was completely at fault, and yet…if they hadn’t been where they were, it wouldn’t have happened to them. It likely would have happened to an older person, whom of course could easily be absolved of all blame as they were over the curfew age limit…
OK, that last bit was pure snark. I have to admit something: news like this scares the shit out of me, because I am a father and my sons, while 7 and 3 now, are not going to be 7 and 3 forever. Inevitably I will allow them to drive the family car or allow them to buy their own, with some serious restrictions.
I simply want to point out that (20/20 hindsight and all) if they were my children killed, I’d be heartbroken that they were where they weren’t (legally) supposed to be and that is preventable.
But I cannot find in it my heart, having once been a rowdy youngster myself, to blame them. So far by all accounts, other than the curfew violation, they were doing nothing wrong.
I don’t know anymore. I am tired of hearing about these instances of preventable, premature deaths.
If I were a parent of one of them, I would feel guilt because of the mitigating circumstances.