This is an excellent point.
We’re having a morning wedding followed by afternoon tea by way of reception, and I just know some of my catty acquaintances will think this a way for me to get out of serving anyone a hot, sit-down meal because I am cheap. This is why those people are not invited. I’m doing it that way so that I can party with my guests, serve my mother and my auntie’s fabulous salads, vichyssoise, and shortbread cookies, and then spend a quiet evening with my new wife. See? Everyone wins. 
Weddings have the potential to be turned into massive status symbols, but I’m not going that route, and I think by choosing to do an almost entirely DIY wedding, I’m setting myself for some cluck-clucking behind my back. As I said, anyone who would do that isn’t invited, so it won’t bother me one bit.
It sounds like a lovely wedding. Congrats again.
Just so long as you don’t sing something like Paradise by the Dashboard Light, Blinded by the Light, You Light Up my Life, well, just avoid any song with the word Light in the title and you’ll be fine.
(Why not have the Buffy opening theme musice for your recessional?)
Well, as a Lutheran I have to say that it’s not a “Lutheran” thing per se. I’ve been to MANY Lutheran weddings where the congregation all sings. We have hymns specifically FOR weddings. Lutheran tradition is full of singing…in fact it’s one of the things we do best! wink G
Of course, if your father is Scandinavian and not German that may be the difference. I’ve found that most Scandinavian Lutherans are the tacturn “yep, nope” types while the German Lutherans are the more boisterous beer, coffee and pot luck are the 3rd co-sacraments.
I’d say go for it. It’s YOUR wedding and if people are upset by it they can just get over it! G
Congrats on your upcoming nuptials!
Cats.
Actually… that’s a good idea. Except it will be an instrumental Under Your Spell from OMWF.