Maybe one of your mutual friends stole from him and blamed it on you, then shunned you along with everyone else, to cover their tracks. That is what happened to a friend of mine.
As for me, I’ve only ever been hated by one heroin junkie and one petty stuck-up mallrat, so I figure I am doing something right.
I can think of at least four people who strongly dislike me and very probably hate me. But life’s too short to be everything that everybody wants you to be. I let some people down along the way, but I realize now that you can’t make everybody like you, so there’s no point in losing sleep over possible “enemies.”
I was a Training Officer for basic trainees in the Army for a while. I was in charge of the Drill Instructors. Pretty sure I got some hate, but not as much as the DIs. Hate, as long as there’s a lesson to be learned is not a bad thing neccessarily. It focuses the mind.
Yes. It was deserved.
I’m sure it’s still there, although she’ll never admit it.
Yes. I hurt a young lady very badly in matters of love. Her family still has animosity towards me, some 20 years later. She ended up wth a great marraige and a cute family, and seems happy. We actually made amends about a decade ago when we ended up at a mutual friend’s wedding. Tho she thought I had been a right ass, she recognised that I had changed, it was a long time ago, and shit happens. So, we’re okay. Her family, tho… Oh well, can’t win them all.
I can identify with this statement. I allow very few people to get close to me (unless they’ve jumped through the requisite hoops of fire). They can’t love you this way, but they can’t hate you either.
I think I’ve hated more people than I’ve been hated myself. I do know of someone’s hate for me at this moment. She’s never said she hated me but I feel it. Her very public lambasting of me on her blog kinda gave me a hint ;). We were friends and I ended our friendship abruptly when I found out she was a thief and a liar and a shameless user of people. I called her on it and she now hates me because I am the only one of our circle to stand up to her. She has surrounded herself with sycophants and I wasn’t willing to be another one.
It doesn’t feel good to hate or be hated, which is why I keep most people at arms length…there’s no chance for either to happen.
I was once hated by all my coworkers. I was working the night shift, and the day shift manager was leaving the company. There was no one else on the day shift qualified to take her place, so one of us was going to get the job. One by one, all my coworkers talked to the owners, trying to get the job. Except me. I didn’t like the owners, and wasn’t interest in working days, when they were around. Of course I was the most qualified, so I got the job, pissing off everyone, including myself. Of course they all thought I’d stabbed them in the back to get that promotion.
I was the editor of my hometown newspaper from 1990 to 1997 before leaving the newspaper buisness. To this day there are people who won’t speak to me because of editorial decisions I made.
I had a whole group of Asian-American classmates of mine hate me for about 2 years after a failed relationship with a girl I liked.
Other than that, I know some Dopers here detest me but I dont think it’s gotten to hatred… yet ^^;
Only by women who have slept with me.
I don’t know what’s going on there…
I understand that it’s probably not worth your trouble - but couldn’t you file a complaint with your state bar association about this? I’m not taking professional responsibility until next year, but I’d assume the model ethics code discourages blatantly unprofessional treatment of opposing counsel. If the other guy is that immature, you might be doing a public service by letting the state bar know he’s a bit off.
I don’t know if anyone’s ever expended enough energy on me to hate me, but certainly some have disliked me very much.
A former best friend. Her boyfriend kissed me. I was young and naive so after rejecting him, I promptly told her about it.
My ex-husband probably hated me the day he tried to kill me, but he seems to want to be on a friendlier footing now…he does things like try to loan me books. All our communication takes place through our son, since the restraining order still stands (and even if it doesn’t, we’re going to pretend it does).
The lady who got me this job (she doesn’t work here anymore). Many years ago, in a department far, far away, she had been hired by my mother, so when she got into a more influential position, she returned the favor by recommending me. However, there was friction between us right from the beginning. She was religious, so there were things about me of which she did not approve, such as my daughter having been born out of wedlock. She was also fat and I was thin, so there was that hostility. I was always being told by other co-workers what nasty things she said behind my back. Still, we had to work together, so we always kept it sweet and phony.
So what happened to him?
Jeez he was such an ass it was unbelievable. I seem to recall him saying that he was dyslexic and was unable to type American/s so instead he typed USers which even as a Brit used to get on my tit because of the implied insult
He had no problems with other looooong words though
Sure! I have plenty who hate me IRL because of things my jobs required me to do. There’s also a handful who hate me from the two discussion boards I frequent. Every moment any of them have ever spent thinking ill of me is one more little victory.
Not to speak for Campion, but IMO, IME, and under the unwritten rules of professional courtesy as I know them, a bar complaint is a complete nuclear bomb, to be deployed only as a last resort and only if the attorney’s professional ethics are truly beyond the pale. “He called me names” as a basis for a bar complaint only tags you (the complaining attorney) as a whiner who cannot defend him/herself, and word would quickly get around that you filed it.
Trial work in particular can foster strong negative emotions in opposing counsel, especially those who don’t have enough experience or professionalism to understand that things that are done “in the trenches” in an inherently adversarily profession should never be taken personally – a motion filed, an objection made: that’s how the job goes, and it’s isn’t or shouldn’t be personal. Without exception, the opposing counsel who have apparently hated me have either been inexperienced or not very good or both. I found the best response was to kick their asses in court, if possible.
Like Campion, I had a mutual acquiantence once tell me how much an opposing counsel loathed me. I just replied, truthfully, that I couldn’t say I felt the same way, because I didn’t spend much time thinking about him one way or the other.
I feel your pain (or lack thereof) as a veterinarian. Almost daily I explain to people that, yes, I can make their pet happy/healthy. Then I explain that there is a cost to this service. Then the hate begins.
What? No cops, judges or prison guards on this board?
I don’t hate such people myself, of course, but I imagine that being in any of these positions certainly makes you to be conspicuously hated by a lot of people.
When I was managing retail I had a line level worker gal who had a crush on me and really wanted to go out with me. At the time I was trying to put something together cross country with another girl (never worked out) so I kept turning her down.
At the same time there was another worker guy who thought he was a real ladies man and desperately wanted to date her. She turned him down repeatedly and thought he was scum. When he found out that she was trying to get me to go out with her he dragged my name through the mud every which way, made up all kinds of crap about me, a generally pissed all over me. Of course never to my face, always just to her and other workers.
He underestimated the loyalty of my employees and they relayed everything he said about me and waited for me to confront the guy.
Being a manager however I decided a big confrontation with a line-level worker over insults was just beneath me. So, instead I called her up and started dating her a lot. And made sure everyone knew about it so word got back to him.
Bonus was she was a really great date.
I’m pretty sure that guy hated me.
Damn ! That blows. I love my vet . She takes better care of my cats than my doctor takes of me. I can relate though. I deal in auto repair and parts. But when the bitching starts I suggest they aquire four legged transportation which normally calms them down. But if any opt for a horse or donkey , I’ll be sure to send them your way.
As far as I know, no one in “real life” has ever hated me. I’ve certainly never had anyone express hatred face-to-face. But in the semi-anonymous world of the Internet, I have acquired a small band of non-admirers who throw the word “hate” around freely. I envision these folks as friendless malcontents who spend a great amount of time snarking around online, at the sacrifice of genuine human interaction. Of course, they probably think the same of me.