Two of my boys - 10 and 12 years old - go after each other once in a while and my SO and I have a tough time keeping perspective. Sometimes I think that’s what kids are supposed to do, sometimes I think they’re the two craziest people ever. It’s mostly verbal, and for that matter it’s mostly trivial, but it can be physical also. Neither one has ever done lasting damage; the worst is that one of them had a pretty bad scrape on his foot and his brother stomped on it about once a day for about a week. But probably the worst thing about it is how constant it can be at times. Sometimes when we’re in the car they average about one insult every 30 seconds or so.
I don’t think it will ever come to this, but sometimes we think it would be a good idea to send either one away to a boarding school ASAP. The younger one is applying for middle schools this year and we are definitely leaning away from sending him to the same school as his brother, even though it’s a great school.
And then there’s the optimistic side of me that remembers that many friends have told me about growing up fighting like cats and dogs with siblings as if it were all a big joke. They don’t seem to think of it as a big deal.
Any suggestions? Would it be too extreme to send one of them away? At what point might you consider that?
What were your experiences? You and your siblings? Your kids? How did things work out in the long run?