For folks unfamiliar with the idea, it’s something in tabletop roleplaying games, a relatively recent phenomenon. There’s a literal or (more often) metaphorical card on the table with an X on it. If what’s happening in the game is making a player genuinely uncomfortable, the player can tap the X, and it’s understood that the game will either rewind so that thing didn’t happen, or there’ll be an out-of-game discussion before things proceed.
It’s intended to help with things that might show up in a game, like violence against children, sexual violence, torture, killing the family dog, or other things that can turn the game unfun for some players. There are some groups where torture is part of the game and everyone’s fine with it; but you gotta have a way to recognize when things cross someone’s comfort lines.
Anyway, I’ve played in several games where the X card or a similar dynamic was mentioned at the outset, but I’ve never seen it used. Until last weekend.
I was playing a pickup game with some friends, and I won’t bore you with more than three sentences of detail. Our crack investigative team broke into the security headquarters of the criminal boss, and the sneaky infiltrator zoomed under the boss’s chair and held a knife to the boss’s junk. “Make a move, and snip!” the player said. (This wasn’t a guy I’d played with before, and this sentence doesn’t count as one of my three). When we realized that the guy in the captain’s chair wasn’t the boss, but a scared-shitless pop musician, all of us ran to the next room–except for the annoyed infiltrator dude, who declared, “I go ahead and cut 'em off.”
There were general boos from me and some other players, because what the fuck, aren’t we supposed to be the good guys? But I was just gonna let it go–until one player said, “Actually, I’m using a nope card on that. That makes the game not fun for me, and it’s not the kind of game I want to play in. Can we rewind?”
The infiltrator player was gobsmacked: he’d never heard of such a thing and was genuinely confused about what was going on. But seeing that everyone else was behind it, he shrugged and agreed that he wouldn’t do that, and played successfully in the rest of the game.
Later I overheard him talking to the Nope Card player to get clarification, and it sounded like there was no bad blood on either side. The guy was new to our group (a lot of us have known each other for a couple of decades), and I think he wanted to fit into the group, and this was kind of a moment of learning some cultural norms for him.
So that’s my X-card story. Have any of you had similar experiences?