I had a long conversation with a wonderful black boy in my class once, clever and goodhearted but let’s just say not the best at impulse control. He doesn’t know his dad but has inferred that dad’s in prison; the main male he spends time around at home is an uncle who’s in and out of prison (and once the police woke the boy up in a predawn raid on their house, looking for the uncle, guns drawn).
The boy asked me, “Why don’t we have more police at our school?”
I asked him, “You’ve gotten in trouble, right? [yeah] Have you ever talked to a cop when you got in trouble? [yeah, once!] How did you feel after that?”
He shrugged lopheadedly, said, “Made me feel like I was gonna grow up like my dad.”
Things can be family/culture and ALSO institutional racism. Kid like this, growing up in a neighborhood devastated by the prison industrial complex, by age eight he sees the default for himself being a life of crime. You think I’ve had a lot of white boys in my class with that same outlook for themselves? Don’t think I’ve ever had one. Even the white boys who have a dad in prison don’t see that as the default for themselves, they see plenty of white men (including me!) who aren’t in prison, they see other paths for themselves.
I teach at a school with 30 teachers (I think, including the specialists, librarians, etc.). Of those 30 teachers, one is Latino. One is African American. All the rest are white. There are about 6 of us who are male. The rest are female.
There are not only no black male teachers, there are no black men who work at the school at all. We’ve got about 30-40% of our students are black. That’s a lot of kids who don’t spend their days around adults who look like them.
I think it’s a vicious cycle of institutional racism feeding child cultural beliefs. We need to interrupt the cycle, and doing so is WAY, WAY bigger than schools. (A black guy in our community recently got the shit beat out of him by some white cops, and the bodycam footage was leaked. The victim of the attack is a relative of another of my students. Not solving this within the classroom.)