I think that’s called “getting bored”. Try switching up your entertainments now and then.
If the claim that you don’t feel anything feels fake to you, there’s a reason.
I didn’t say I was a sociopath. That is not the point I am trying to get at here.
Quit reading whatever that person wrote. She doesn’t know you.
Dude, it’s not worth it.
‘Life’ is passing you by as you search in vain for the meaning of ‘Life’
Please, please stop with the Buddhism. It’s obviously the source of your discomfort.
No spiritual doctrine can ever help you until you figure yourself out.
Man, it’s the human condition. It’s the story of my life. It’s the story of everyones life.
No outside force of any kind can give your life meaning, alone.
It takes a balance of many fragments of things. Love, Career, Family, Pets, maybe a religion, and many many other things.
The key is to find a combination of things and fit them together for a proper life.
My life and anyones life, including some anoymous woman on the internet will not have what ‘You’ need for happiness.
Only you can find your combination.
Buddhism is not what you need. Drop it. Don’t read anymore about it.
Well I have the full details if it helps:
"You spend enough time in meditation, you will realize that you never genuinely feel feelings in the first place
it is all just cause and effect response
and a lot of the time the specificity of that response is ascribed to how societal expectations dictate one should be effected by a particular cause
loss–>sadness
gain–>joy
The part about loss being false, is cold – that is why the wise thing to do is to help people grieve rather than tell them about it
there are more appropriate times and places to discuss the ultimate nature of reality,
and telling someone “death doesn’t matter” while they are vulnerable and grieving over death
will often hurt them in an emotional sense more than it will help guide them to an ultimate understanding
it has to be balanced out with a proper understanding of compassion
but all the monks I’ve met over the course of my life have been comfortable in their way of life
while my own had for years been disordered and confusing"
“after that first level, it is appropriate to feel a variety of ways to share in social experiences
if people around you are depressed over loss, the compassionate thing is often to commiserate with them, rather than tell them their loss is false and not worth crying over
if people around you want to give you gifts and celebrate their promotion at work, the compassionate thing is to thank them for the gifts and share in their celebration to maximize their feelings of joy
in both situations, the individual with “true understanding” knows there is no reason to feel anything with regards to either situation as they are just random things that occur through particle and waves in reality colliding
but the conventionally appropriate way of being in the world may include feeling depressed over things to empathetically connect with other people”
It doesn’t help, because this
is total nonsense.
It’s like saying, ‘This table in front of me doesn’t exist because it’s only atoms.’ The table exists, and the attempt to pretend it doesn’t is psychotic.
Feelings exist, and the attempt to deny that we feel them is psychotic.
I tried to think of it like that, but like with anything that has that “eastern spiritual” quality to it I can’t help but feel like I’m in the wrong and there is some hidden truth to the words she was saying.
Plus she’s not saying they don’t exist.
But there are hundreds of different - and contradictory - types of Eastern spirituality. They can’t all be right.
I get that but I’m mostly referring to this one.
Can’t help but what now?
But here you are speaking about signalling your feelings, not feeling them. You may be choosing (subconsciously or not) to demonstrate certain emotions you are not actually feeling so as to obtain social acceptance and approval.
IOW, acting fake. But whether you are overly socially malleable or not you still have genuine feelings and emotions. They just might not be the same feelings you are attempting to sell via your actions.
I want to believe that but she said that if you spend enough time meditating that you realize you don’t genuinely feel emotions and that those with true understanding know there is no reason to feel anything with regard to situations.
Have you considered the possibility that she’s wrong?
Have you considered the possibility that she’s never experienced for herself what she’s talking about? That she’s just saying what she imagines (incorrectly) people should experience?
You do, huh? Like, passionately, and right in the feels?
The statements that person made are ridiculous.
If you’ve ever felt real grief I promise you will ‘feel’ pain and suffocating sadness.
I knew the people who were genuine in their remarks to my loss when my Daddy died.
Humans ‘feel’, they just do.
When bad things happen or when good things happen, a human will display emotional responses.
It’s not a bad thing.
Feelings are good.
Like I said, quit listening to that quack.
She’s dangerous.
IMHO
There’s your problem. She is full of prunes.
Look, you can “meditate” to the point where the world goes away. Sit in one position and recite “Palindrome” a thousand times. The word stops having any meaning. The world stops having any meaning. You’re numbing your brain. Perception and cognition fail under this treatment.
How is this really different from slugging back a fifth of vodka? If you do that, you don’t “feel” things either. All this tells us is that the human mind is susceptible to certain kinds of physiological failures.
Here’s a classic: hit yourself pysically on the head, because it feels really good when you stop. (Memo: not meant seriously.)
You believed her because you WANT that to be true. Why do you WANT that to be true?
If you could just frame that with an “eastern spiritual” quality we’d be done here. Maybe substitute lotus root?
“Her vibrations are dissonant and in conflict with the oneness of creation.”
She’s meditating on the wrong end of the sacred cow.
She’s speaking from experience and it makes me question my own emotions in the process. Like why I feel a certain way and whether it’s because it’s socially right or I truly feel that way. Then I begin to wonder why I feel what I feel in regards to certain things when, if she is right, stuff just…happens for no reason?