All my life I’ve been very shy. I have made friends, although not as many as I’d like. I’ve also had almost no luck with dating. I’ve tried a couple dating websites, but a pattern almost invariably repeats itself: I got occasional first dates, but then I either never heard from the woman again or I got told that I’m not a good match for her. This has left me pretty depressed at times, and I’m on medication that only seems to help a little.
For over 10 years now, I’ve gone through a variety of therapists to help with shyness and depression, but none have really helped me very much in either respect. The second-to-last therapist pretty much gave up and told me he couldn’t figure out how to help me. The last one didn’t really have much advice other than to keep doing what I’ve been doing (staying on the dating sites, going to social events, etc.) The problem is that I don’t really connect with anybody at these events. I finally told this therapist that I wasn’t making any progress with him the other day and would like to go to somebody else. Does anybody have any suggestions for finding a therapist who will actually help?