Reading the article, I agree with Guin. The kid was bullied and assaulted in addition to whatever sexual activity occured.
For those who didn’t read it, what we don’t have here is a “he kissed my wee-wee! giggle giggle” sort of situation.
But the aghast reaction that children can’t and shouldn’t have sexual feelings at a young age is simply bullshit. A fetus will often have an erection in the uterus at 6 months gestation, fer Chrissakes! Most toddlers masturbate against the material of their diapers! We’re sexual fucking creatures, and the sooner we recognize that the “latency period” crap was completely made up out of Victorian ideals, not science, the sooner we can recognize and educate our children in how to handle their sexual feelings at a younger, more appropriate, age. How to handle them? In private, and alone. Teaching that quiet and private masturbation is OK, but not something we share with other people, is not developmentally inappropriate.
In this case however, I’ll eat my hat if it’s not discovered that the sodomizer is abused himself. Not because of the sexual feelings, but because of the combination of sex and violence. That’s almost always taught, and not in a good way.
Jumping the gun? The kid ran crying and screaming out of the bathroom for God’s sake!
Oh by the way, I would be very surprised if the situation was oral. First of all, while the legal definition of sodomy may include oral, you can bet your ass (oh God) that a news paper wouldn’t use it in that sense without clarifying it, or at least it shouldn’t. Because most peoples impressions are that sodomy=butt sex. Second, 6-year-old boys are usually pretty good biters, however fear may play a large part there.
That’s what I was thinking. It could have gone as far as “Let me stick me finger (or a pencil or something) up your butt”. Little kids seem to be pretty fascinated by butts.
But I don’t know. Reading the article it certainly sounds like it was coercive.
Who is Rick Rydell? Heh, sounds like someone from “Grease”. KWhale is the station I’ve got my clock radio set to, I like the music the best on that station. And for some reason, it’s the station that comes in the clearest on my ancient clock radio. So the three mornings a week I have to get up early to teach class, I get Bob and Mark.
Hey, at least they now actually PlAY music during their show.
Rydell is an illiterate scumbag who fucked over his wife and kids (I know them) and who somehow managed to go from everyone’s choice of most likely to end up in prison to right wing radio asshole. He was voted Man of The Year by the state’s Republican Party this year. I kid you not. Ya gotta be proud.
Usually by being sexually abused himself. 90% of perpatrators have been victims.*
And btw, sodomy is not always what you think it is. It is just an illegal type of sex act. Could be anal, could be oral, could be using a cooking spoon. States vary with regards to the definition of this term, but usually it is more types of acts than just putting from the rough.
*the reverse is NOT true. Statistically few victims go on to become perps.
Well come on there Chefguy you know our lovely state is last refuge for the weird and socially unacceptable. Saaaay, he’s not that guy from out in Wasilla that drives around in the tiny little pickup and the weird looking campertruck with all the conspiracy warning billboards on it is he?
But no, I’ve honestly never heard of him. I can’t stand that narrowminded political viewpoint talkshows from either side, and except for the Bob and Mark wakeup, I generally stick to pre-recorded music while traveling since I’m still taking the bus.
And frankly, even in the car, I HATE ads, so stick to CD or tape. Is this Rydell guy on AM radio? I don’t even think I could get AM on the radio in my old car.
It isn’t that I’m aghast at the idea that young children have sexual feelings. It’s that this six year old child knew what to do to act them out. I find it incomprehensible that a child of that age would know more than “rubbing it feels good,” and doing so (or letting another child look and feel–“playing doctor.”) sometimes. But to actually know the mechanics of sex and act on them? At six, I never even thought about that part! IOW, I knew feelings, but not functions. What stuns me is that this boy knew all this at an age when most kids are playing cops and robbers, so to speak, and I have to wonder what put such thoughts into his mind!
eh.
As to this story. I am surprised that the victim didn’t run out of the room, screaming sometime before hearing his mom’s voice. Is one boy bigger than the other? How did the “perp” get the “victim” to stay in the bathroom that long, w/o threat of some type? Just curious.
I am sure that the “perp” has been abused–this whole thing makes me sick. I hope that both boys get the help they need.
I do not blame the teacher–this happened the first week of school. Then again, if you don’t know names, what about head counts or desks? Surely, their desks were empty! My six y/o son has his own desk.
I do hope that the school district is not blamed for the major failings of this family–that kid needs help and the adult perp needs to be found.
Yeah, he’s on KENI-AM. Calling him ‘illiterate’ was probably over the top, since he seems to be somewhat educated, but he’s big on conspiracy and smarmy commentary. I don’t listen to him, either, nor any of the other dingbats.
Am I being whooshed here? How can you say perps have been victims, and then say victims don’t turn into perps? They’re the same sentence, just turned sideways. Please explain - I could be missing something here…
You’re missing something. How about an example with made-up numbers?
There’s a population of 1000 people. Of those 1000 people, 100 have been victims, and 10 are perps. Of the 10 perps, 9 are also victims, and the tenth is not.
So nine out of ten (90%) of perpetrators have been victims, but only nine out of one hundred (9%) victims turn into perps. Make sense?
