Don’t do your housemates essay for her. If her illness has prevented her from working on it, she should ask the professor for an extension. If her dyslexia makes it difficult for her to do the project, she should work with the professor and whatever resources the university has. That said, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you helping her with it, since you are knowledgeable about the topic. But your help should be limited to suggesting books and sources, and discussing the subject with her, not writing for her.
As for Adam and Claire, it all depends on how close a friend Adam is. If he’s a really close friend, and they’re actually about to get married (i.e. not just talking about it), you should tell him. (If you can’t bring yourself to tell him directly, mail him an anonymous note.) Otherwise, don’t say anything. If your entire circle of friends knows, he’ll find out eventually.
Okay, thanks for your opinions everyone. THey’re all appreciated. I just wanna make a few comments and clear up a couple of things.
Lockseeker
That’s a damn good point. I hadn’t thought about it like that.
AskNott
She actually started it over a month ago. She is very dyslexic and the mountain of research (which I just happen to have already read over the last couple of years independently) takes her a lot longer than most people. As far as I’m aware she started working on this essay the day she found out about it.
featherlou
It could get her tossed out for cheating but only if someone found out which would be unlikely in the extreme. I’d put better odds on Elvis landing a flying saucer on the back of the loch ness monster than anyone finding out I did the essay (or the bulk of it at least) on her behalf.
As for the morality of cheating, well, I don’t want to drag this into a debate on ethics. I’ll save that for GD if that’s ok.
Ferret Herder
I don’t really think that’s the case. I can’t really explain why other than to say I know her and I know passive aggressive and that profile doesn’t fit her.
Stover9
That’s what I wanted to hear However, Lockseeker’s point about becoming a crutch is well taken too. I probably won’t do the essay for her but will help out with the planning stage.
Celyn
She’s been in touch with her tutor about this very issue by e-mail and is waiting for a reply.
Bippy the Beardless
That’s probably what I’ll do. Thanks dude
Anyway, problem two. The bulk of the advice seems to be stay out of it. Although I had nothing to do with the situation I’m aware of it and that means I’m gonna be burned whatever I do. I figure staying out is the best form of damage control. Besides, I don’t know how things are going to turn out and I could conceivably make things worse. Just a couple of quick comments though.
Stover9
No.
Hamadrydad
Nicely put. This is definately the safest option for all concerned IMO.
Giraffe
Bringing myself to tell him isn’t really the problem. I’m pretty disgusted with Claire so smashing her sordid love triangle would be a pleasure. However, she has sworn that she loves Adam and that she’ll try to steer clear of Bob, out of sight and out of mind 'n all that. I don’t want to tell Adam if the thing between Claire and Bob is over.
If “everyone in your circle of friends” knows about Claire and Bob, Adam likely does, too. He may not know that Bob is the culprit, but unless he’s a complete dolt, he probably has a clue that something is going on.
Is Bob really the kind of guy you want as one of your best friends? What happens if YOUR girlfriend finds him attractive? Obviously, he wouldn’t hesitate to put you in Adam’s unenviable position…
However, Lockseeker’s point about becoming a crutch is well taken too. I probably won’t do the essay for her but will help out with the planning stage.