It does seem that way to we hearing people.
After working with deaf folks for several years, the best analogy that I have (and I probably mentioned in this old thread) is that if a Black couple could arranged for their child to be born White. He would make more money, do better in school, he would not be shot for driving while White. But he would want to associate with other White folks, not his parent’s Black friends and social groups. They’d rarely see him!
One of my least favorite experiences is lugging PA equipment through a crowd of Deaf people after a football game. I dress out at 110, and have a hard enough time schlepping the PA without people with their back turned towards me who don’t hear me and stand in my way. 
That’s a difficult analogy because it involves a reaction to racism. Maybe a better analogy would be poor parents who would arrange for their child to remain poor so that they could relate.
That is not a better analogy. (LOL) A hearing child can’t do much to make his parents less deaf.
Yeah I know this an old thread but the title pretty much sizes up how I am feeling about the deaf culture right now! Yeah but wishing your child to be deaf most likely will not increase their earning ability and I feel that is a very selfish reason to wish a child deaf or white. I brought my daughter up to be
independence and be able to have a life of her own and not be living at home with me still. I was so happy my daughter and grandchild are NOT deaf or hoh
I would never had wish this on my child. I think it’s insane ! I just do not under the deaf culture and deaf people getting pissed off b/c I don’t say ‘Deaf’ culture. And you’re the first person I saw that typed Black & White this way, I do too yet people on the deaf forum never do type Black yet they get bended out of place over not using ‘D’ in deaf . :smack:
sigh I miss handy. He was fucking nuts, and sure to fill me with righteous anger. 
Welcome aboard, purplehearingaid. I’m enjoying growing more HOH because it’s easier to ignore people, a gift I admired in my mother.
Yeah, so do I.
Thank you ! It’s good to know I am welcome on a forum , I been emailing a member from the deaf forum and she feel the same as I do about people there.
My mother ignore us kids when she was upset and I could not stand it . I was the only hoh person in my family . I just have to turn my hearing aid down then I can’t hear people talking. I am losing more hearing and not liking it , I am having a hard using the phone. Growing up hoh in the 40’s -50’s was no fun . People were so damn clueless about this , I only had one hearing aid. If you wore eyeglasses you didn’t get it for only one eye . I was angry at my mom for
years for not stopping dad from abusing me , then I realize that my mom was
a victim of dad abuse too . This help me to get rid of some of my anger .
I am still using the deaf forum and people aren’t allow to post about getting a CI implant anymore b/c the nuts in the deaf culture get all bended out of shape about people wanting to hear . WTF! I am so glad I wasn’t apart of this insane culture growing up ! Sorry for using a old thread again but I can’t say anything against bad the deaf culture . Some deaf people think it a crime for a deaf person to even think of getting a CI implant ! :smack:
I’m just glad you’re still with us. I may have mentioned it upthread but a girl from church got her CIs in junior high and is an adult now. A very smart and politically oriented woman. I look forward to voting for her someday.
Not to hijack, but just for those who might not be aware: these attitudes aren’t unique to the “Deaf community”. Every disability has party lines where people clash over the proper way to handle issues.
It’s not limited or rare by any stretch.
Honestly, watch “X-Men: The Last Stand” and wherever they say “mutant”, replace it with “handicapped/disabled person” and replace “mutation” with any specific handicap/disability you wish. It suddenly goes from fantasy to incredibly true to life.
Hear, hear!
My (hearing) son just graduated from RIT, and found the NTID students added a great deal to his college experience.
I just found this thread, and despite me being (very) late to this game, I’d like to chime in.
I hate the deaf community because many of them have learned it pays to play the grievance/“I-am-so-offended” card. I am profoundly deaf myself, and when I refer to myself (to the hearing world, since my employment is within a hearing company) as “hearing-impaired,” the deaf community is in an outrage over my choice of words. Basically this was their response to my choice of “hearing-impaired” to describe myself:
Deaf Community: Hearing-impaired?? That is SOOOOO offensive! That’s like saying we are “impaired” as people!
Ok. So I switch to “I have a hearing loss” - and the deaf community is still outraged. Their response were in the lines of:
Deaf Community: “Hearing LOSS??? That is soooo offensive! Since we were not born with any hearing, how can it be a loss to begin with?” (flawed logic, wow).
When I switch to, “I have a hearing disability,” they are STILL outraged. Their response:
Deaf Community: “DISABILITY? But we are not disabled!! It’s OFFENSIVE to say deafness is a form of hearing disability!!”
Side note: The notion is not lost on me that they reject the “disability” term but they’re the first in line to get government-funded handouts, aka DISABILITY checks. Hypocrisy much? As long as they get monetary gain, the label is okay, obviously.
It seems to be that deaf people are constantly offended by everything, anything, anyone who says things that do not fit their narrative. It’s glaringly obvious that they view this as a form of control, a form of silencing and bullying people into doing what THEY want them to do.
About how many members of the deaf community told you they were outraged by your use of “hearing-impaired” to describe yourself?