I feel the need to weigh in on this only because my office is in the process of hiring two attorneys (one entry-level, one lateral hire) and for those two positions we have now received some 190 resumes. And while the office I work in is beyond awesome, it’s not sexy – county government work. So I’m getting to talk to a lot of people, and I also remember well trying to get into graduate school and then trying to get those first few jobs after I got done.
In my field – and in my office – you are expected to be able to demonstrate some interest in the particular postion you’re seeking. It’s best if that interest is not just words coming out of your mouth, but experience you’ve actually bothered to garner. You like family law, and you’ve worked as a court liason volunteer? Fabulous! You like poverty law, and you volunteered to help low-income people fill out housing forms? Great! What, you say you want to litigate, which of course you never have because you’re still in school? Ah, but you’re on your moot court team, and you were a debater through college? Wonderful.
Since it seems to have escaped you (if not your brother), the job interview, or school interview, is not really the place to be your unvarnished self. You do not want to present the true you – the real you! – you want to present the candidate they are going to want to hire (or let in). This doesn’t mean you’ve sold your soul to the devil, but it does mean that you have bothered to try to garner the experience they are looking for. So, yeah, you put in some time down at the old folks’ home. Or you work in a doctor’s office. Or you study to be an EMT. You want your resume to say He can do this type of work, because he’s already done it and He’s sure this is the direction he wants to go in, because he’s already headed that way and He’s responsible and hardworking and meets his commitments.
And if you get an interview, you continue to present the candidate they want to see. This is not “sucking up,” it’s showing what an asset you’ll be to their office or school. How can you show that, if you disdain to demonstrate the qualities you think they’re looking for? Even if your brother never wants to touch a live person in his entire medical career, there’s a way to spin that without making a liar of himself: You play up your strengths and downplay your weaknesses: “I tend to be a pretty analytical thinker and reseach is what really draws me. But of course I recognize the importance of making sure the patients are comfortable and understand what’s going on . . . .”
The problem with “This is me! Take it or leave it!” is that the answer can so easily be “We’ll leave it, thanks.” This goes not just for school and career, but in our personal lives as well.
Nobody owes it to your brother to let him in to medical school. If he has lacked the foresight to position himself optimally for admission, and he refuses to “sell himself” a little to get in – well, he shouldn’t be surprised to be rejected.
I wish him the best of luck, but I also hope he comes across in person as a little more personable than you’ve described him.