She stated she was going to go look into getting a PO Box today. I went to the USPS website and they’re pretty affordable for what she needs. Originally I had suggested just making sure she stops mail when up at the cabin, but after the hoohah Sunday - no. I haven’t spoken with her tonight, but presume I will in the morning and will double check whether she made the switch or not.
When the neighbors first moved in they seemed pretty decent. Mom welcomed them, always said hello, was actually quite interested in learning about their culture. However, at that time there were only 5 people living in the three bedroom house. As noted in the OP there are now 12, we think. Mom stated this afternoon that is supposedly a newborn, but she hasn’t heard/seen her in a week. The baby’s mother is the chronic urinator and for the first two weeks the baby was always in a sling on her back. She and the little boy are still sleeping in the shed.
Mom does have a very nice 6’ privacy fence, which works when she’s in the basement. The house is a split level and her kitchen window overlooks their entire backyard and side of the garage/garbage area. The deck also overlooks their backyard. The kitchen is the heart of her home. We used to go over and just sit at the kitchen table all night, playing cards and yammering. Much to her dismay we’re now having to sit on the “company” sofa (IOW only company can sit there).
WRT the Sunday episode - I was talking to a friend whose hubby is a cop in a neighboring city. He also suggested she call and talk to the lead cop that was at her door and further explain the situation. He wants her to take the initiative, but stated he would also put in a word. My sister and her husband are fairly active in another neighboring city police force (as reserves) and stated they would get the word out. My eldest nephew lives less than a mile from her and is over almost every day, as she babysits his kids. He stated he would make more of an effort to swing by when he’s not working. My youngest nephew also stated he would be more of a presence. AND mom confirmed she paid up the security company for another year.
When Dad died she promised to stay in the house a year. It’s almost a year and a half. The neighborhood is changing and she believes she cannot trust any neighbors (there are a few who will step in if need be, I know, but she doesn’t believe it). The only place she wants to move to is the cabin, but how the hell will she fit a 2500 square foot home into a 1000 square foot cabin? Thats beside the fact that it would need a lot of work to be year around livable and she would be an hour away. She is not wealthy, the housing market sucks, and she doesn’t want to be forced out of her home.
There is a community action group - I will call them tomorrow. For the most part they tend to deal with the other side of the city which is well known for it’s gang activity. Adding to it all, Mom feels that because the neighbors are relatively recent immigrants much of what she complains about is explained as “cultural differences”. When I was talking to the social worker (when I called CPS), she confirmed that some issues get explained away in that manner.
Yanno, my mom is a tough old bird. She’s been through quite a bit in the past 5 years. Granted, the neighbors have been through a hell of a lot, leaving a war torn country, attempting to assimilate to an extent, learn the language, but I guess I don’t really give a rats’ ass about what they’ve been through. They’re fucking with my mom.
