As an addendum, listen and comprehend. When she says, three days before Christmas, “The phone in the bedroom isn’t working. We need a new one,” this is not a hint to buy her a phone for the house as a gift.
The way money is organised in my house, my wife has a lot more money to spend in lump sums than I do. Twice she’s gone out and bought me the most expensive graphics card for my PC.
But I have huge trouble finding gifts for her on special occations because I really do make sure she has everything she needs all the time. So come gift time there’s nothing left to give. She doesn’t mind though because, as she said last night, I get her lots of little gifts on a regular basis.
My reputation as a generous gift giver is thus assured and the two occasions per year where I might have to buy something bigger, and scew it up, are minor problems.
YMMV
I read it, I just thought that the two halves made an odd response to her disappointment. First you accused her of bullshit games, which wasn’t what she did at all. She told him exactly what she wanted: a lighweight bathrobe.
And didn’t get it. And you (see above) accused her of being ungrateful for getting what she wanted. Which she didn’t.
That was my own little bit of advice on the whole gift giving thing.
“Just because she said she wants it, doesn’t automatically mean she really wants it.” Just something I’ve seen and was ranting on. Twas a seperate thought entirely.
I’m not a huge fan of this kind of talk in general but the dope is the perfect place for it.
I mean this in the most helpful manner possible: if you notice your SO only wears gold/silver/platinum/whatever DO NOT think ‘oh its ok for me to buy her this in a different metal entirely because this is FANCY jewlery’. This theory does not apply. I don’t wear gold because it looks cheap on me. I’m so white I could be see through and thus only feel comfortable in silver or platinum or the like. If you purchase gold jewlery for women like me we will feel incredible guilt for feeling like we are functionally unable to wear the item (stop rolling your eyes, if you love your woman and want to buy her jewlery thats nice no one is FORCING you (or at least they shouldn’t be) so don’t strain your eye muscles being annoyed by this).
WE LOVE YOU, STOP BUYING THINGS USING YOUR RATIONAL BRAIN!
Ahem, thank you.
Oh. Yeah…I forgot to mention that I am, in most respects (sexuality not being one of them) a gay man. I’ll find clothes when we’re out that blow my Pelvic Affiliate’s mind. But then, that’s because I know her size, and what styles she likes.