Yeah, brah, historically, they’re spoiled using government money and policy. It’s illegal for little kids to work, so all the kids do not work, whereas historically they had to help around the house. You could claim that parents can still do that, but it’s impossible to enforce, as it’s basically illegal to corporal punishment your kid even the slightest amount, and culturally a lot of people have taken up that mantle. So the kid could be doing badly in school, and still not have to work at home (why go to school if you’re not good at it?). Then these same do-no-harm policies exacerbate as the kid gets older. In poor school districts, the whole class is always stunted by jokesters who disrupt class. But they’re not allowed to expel them. The kids are even allowed to fight but they can’t expel them once they’re in certain school districts. And again, going to corporal punishment, no one else is allowed to hit kids either, even when they commit crimes.
Basically, in certain poor areas, there’s a recipe for raising a sociopath, by protecting a child’s every harmful decision. They KNOW that they have free reign to do what they want anywhere, and since people are creatures of habit, that sticks with them into adulthood. Witness the recent story of the kid who knocked out his teacher. There’s lots of other incidents like that. It’s a small percentage of kids, but with the right life experiences and personality types a small percentage grow up like that.
It’s a mixed bag, and it also works the other way, as the perception becomes that kids have no agency whatsoever by nature of being a kid, and don’t know what’s good for them, and so they’re forced into terrible situations, when maybe alternatives to traditional education would be better. I remember watching a show about one of the worst school districts for kids with “behavior problems”, and the school was awful for them, even if a kid would get harassed everyday with physical violence everyone still made him go. But they were only that violent because they were forced to be there. You know, like a prison. Treat them like prisoners, they’ll act out vuiolently, just like prisoners do, go figure. It makes sense, you’ve got nothing better to do in prison, so you just do violence when someone messes with you.
The point is, when you fail to apply consequences to people and protect them from conseqeuences, either punishment or natural conseqeuences to actions, and remove and responsibilities from them, you get people who don’t understand responsibility and conseqeuence. Our society is practicing this to an extreme, and these themes / beliefs have been taken up to the extreme in our culture/blue state culture.
If my young daughter slept with some guys and lied to them about age and tried to sick the authorities on them, I’d smack her. I’d tell her “You wanted some sex, well you got it”. I mean, this is assuming the OP’s premise, where the girl genuinely just wants it. Of course there is the sometimes situation where an older man manipulates an impressionable younger girl with sweet talk, and in that case yeah I’d be pissed at the guy. But assuming the OP’s premise, which does happen, but of course not at 12 (think Fast Times at Ridgemont High where the 16 year old girl went on a date and slept with some adult man. Yeah, girls want sex, especially from older males, who evolutionarily were better candidates), I’d hold my daughter responsible for her actions. BUT, is it hard to imagine modern d-bag parents who would never, ever consider their daughter as having done something wrong? Are there not a million parents nowadays who cannot imagine that little Johnny could ever do any wrong?
Our modern culture, at least in the blue states, is quite fucked up. I often wonder of moving to Texas or Nebrasks or something would be better. It sure as hell would be cheaper over there.