As far as I can tell, as an armchair psychologist, she suffers from Paranoid Personality Disorder. I can deal with it most of the time, and it is sad because she is always thinking other people are plotting against her. Her mother in insulin dependent and she doesn’t like the fact that her father in law gives her mother insulin, and thinks all her mother needs is diet and herbs and such. We are having a disagreement about this now. Her FIL is a great guy but I just can’t seem to make her see that he is not some conniving evil person when he gives her the shots and is in fact keeping her alive.
I care about her, but dealing with her is a real trial. Even after knowing her for years, she even accuses ME of plotting against her in her bad moments. She gets over it and is sorry, but geez, girl, you should know I am on your side after all we have been through.
She is so great in so many ways, but she has this disorder that really fucks up her life, and our relationship. It isn’t something you would notice on acquaintance, but once you know her, she is suspicious of everyone. I try to help her and be a good friend, but man it is difficult.
She is under treatment, but she mistrusts her therapist and discards the medication he prescribes. We are pot smokers, and it seems that when she gets a good batch the symptoms get worse.
It is very hard for me to understand her irrationality. She trusts me to a fair degree most of the time, and I think I am helping her at times. I don’t really know why I am posting this, there is probably no solution so here it is in MPSMIS instead of GQ, but maybe someone will have a useful thought. As I said, she is a great gal, and we have a lot of good times and she does many great things. I do love her, as I do all my girls. It just makes me sad.
I’m sorry that this woman has such issues, but I’m fairly sure that most people, like myself, will get hung up on the whole “one of my girlfriends” thing. Have you already done a thread about your multiple “girls” we can refer to? If not, you may want to start one to prevent a continued hijack here.
Not really threadworthy. My main girlfriend of 16 years now is not crazy. She doesn’t like to travel, and I do, so I have another girlfriend who lives on Long Island and we meet up various places when I travel. Number three, the one in question here, is local and knows and meets the approval of number one and vice versa. I am, um, a bit much to take so they both are kind of relieved that I don’t want to be with each of them all the time. Perhaps I am best in small doses. I guess the other thread should be why I am such a maniac that I am up at 4 in the morning worrying about any of this. :eek:
Yes. Female friend that I have sex with. Maybe I am a bit crazy too, but yes, we have some great times. She has done a lot for me. I have been down in the dumps lately, and she has been really good with getting me back into a positive frame of mind. She has been helping me out financially and with things like food and, um, green comestibles as I am having some financial hardship. Not that she is doing that well either. We are going to go and try to make some money panning for gold up on the San Gabriel River this week. I have been building a gold sluice and we have some other prospecting gear. Folks up there are actually turning some worthwhile money at the current price.
I guess we all deal with crazy folks and we are all a little crazy ourselves, but this paranoia thing is just bizarre. The fact that she won’t acknowledge that her mother will frickin DIE without insulin is beyond my ability to comprehend. Her Mother’s spouse is a great and stand up guy, and I understand that a lot of times people have ambivalent feelings towards stepparents, but we are adults in our 50’s for crying out loud.
I had a GF like this and it is frustrating at times. These patterns were set very early in life and reinforced over and over.
One thing that seemed to help is get to her inner child, at a age that is before that pattern started, usually age 2-6, but may also be non-verbal (infant), and have her be comfortable being her child with you. What that child needs is what one may expect, to be held, fed, perhaps given a bath, given a toy perhaps a teddy bear, anything that you may do for a loved child of that age and can also be acceptable and romantic on a adult level.
Finding the age is sort of a guessing game where some insight goes a long way but it may not be totally needed to know the age. Just mental note any age references made.
Once she trusts you with her inner child you can access it when she is having such a episode, comfort her child let her know that it’s alright, this is where is it handy for both of you to have a belief in God (which you use in the OP title) and let her know that God (as a father figure) sees everything, is watching over you, and will make it right and to bring what she sees to Him in prayer - this will also make her not feel so helpless.
With an eye to the forum we’re in, let me just say that the post was unlikely to be a whoosh as it was entirely consistent with kanicbird’s usual posting style.
I think you’re dating my neighbor, and I’d really appreciate it if you two would get serious and move in together so she moves the hell out of my neighborhood!
Hey, cool, finally some insight into the female mind that’s skeevier than Dr. Drew’s insistence that every woman with a high pitched voice was reacting to some childhood molestation.
Good luck with this! I wonder what percentage of polyamorous relationships, where one of the parties has a paranoid personality disorder, have ever not ended in riveting drama
I guess the other thread should be why I am such a maniac that I am up at 4 in the morning worrying about any of this. :eek: