There are far more depictions of murder in our media than rape, going back to the origins of human culture, including the oldest known stories and myths. Does that make us a murder culture?
And, yes, of course, the women have no power except for their sexuality. That’s part of the point in de-romanticizing fantasy settings. That world of knights and jousting that everyone wishes they were in? If you were a woman (among other things), you wouldn’t enjoy it.
However, it also depicts some women striving to get beyond that, particularly Arya Stark, Catelyn Stark, Cersei Lannister, Asha/Yara Greyjoy, Arianne Martell, the Sand Snakes, Osha, Val, Ygritte and the other Spearwives and Wildling (Free Folk) women, Daenerys Targaryen, Maege and Dacey Mormont, Brienne of Tarth … They’re all struggling in their own ways to take control of their destinies and not be subject to their limited roles in society, their restrictions on choice, and the victims of their own sexuality. Even the prostitutes and the madames, like Ros and Shea, do their best to get some kind of control over their lives.
They rarely succeed, true. But that’s the reality of it. And women aren’t the only ones who are suffering. All kinds of people suffer because of the way society is structured. It’s a deeply sick society, and its trappings of romance and glamor hide the teeming suffering and violence underneath. And only a few centuries ago, this was OUR society, one that we look back on with nostalgia.
Given that, not all the depictions of sexuality on the show are depictions of abuse of women. Some of them are simply two people giving pleasure to each other. Tyrion isn’t a rapist. His whores like him.
What is a knight? What is a king? A murderer, a thief, a rapist, a torturer. Who suffers? Who is trying to change it? Can it be changed? That’s what this story is about.