So for about a year I’ve been having trouble getting a good night’s sleep due to hip pain, and was waking up stiff and sore. I decided to replace my five year old traditional mattress and box springs with a memory foam mattress from Loom and Leaf. They recommended their ‘relaxed firm’, which they said was for side sleepers such as myself.
It seemed like a pretty good mattress overall. Maybe a little hot, but that might have just been me. What I did not like was the feeling of sinking, especially around my hips, and it didn’t give me much relief from the pain either.
Loom and Leaf has a 120 day trial period, and their customer service is great. I sent the first mattress back and swapped it out for firm inner-spring mattress. It has great support, but it’s got no give. Even with a 3" memory foam topper on it, it’s too hard and I’m tossing and turning all through the night trying to get comfortable and waking up stiff and sore.
They will let me swap again, this time for the firmer memory foam, for just a new delivery charge, or give me a refund minus delivery charge, but before I decide I wanted to see if anyone else has ever dealt with the same problems and had found a mattress that was ‘just right’.
When we moved, we decided to spring for the best bed we could get. Tempur-pedic Cloud Luxe and I’ve never had a sounder sleep. Sprang for the pillows, too. Winced when I saw the bill, but it’s worth every penny. I used to toss all night, and had the same hip pain the OP is on about. Not any more!
I had a memory foam mattress for a few years, but nowadays I’m much happier with my sleep number bed.
Admittedly, it’s not for everybody. The twin air chambers were a nuisance, so I substituted a single queen size chamber, found on the internet. I also need to set the pressure every night, as it tends to drift if left alone. But no mattress has ever been as kind to my sciatica.
As an aside, I also sometimes suffer from hip pain while in bed. You know what I do for relief? Stretching the quadriceps before bed seems to work every time. Maybe it’s an issue with the Ileotibial Band (ooh, band name!)?
I’m a princess too. I have arthritis and have a lifelong body of evidence that hard mattresses make my bones ache like nothing else. It doesn’t seem like it should be related and yet… every time (like a cheap hotel bed)!
Shopping for mattresses is the worst experience ever in the history of man, even worse that shopping for a car. They always feel more comfy in the store than after you get them home. Laying on a mattress for 10 minutes doesn’t tell you if it will be comfortable for the next ten years. And they say that when you get your brand new mattress delivered, it will be hard because all the materials are new, so it takes a few weeks to “break it in” and of course by then the return period has expired. And of course it’s just such a huge pain in the butt to have them delivered, let alone having to return it and have a new one delivered.
Husband talked me into buying a sleep number bed a few years ago and from day one to today I HATEITHATEITHATEIT. I ended up having to get my own, separate bed so that I could sleep well.
Sorry, I’m not much help. Just… commiseration, I guess.
Depending on the underlying cause of the hip pain, it’s quite possible that no mattress will help. Is there anywhere you have slept that seems to help - a sofa, the floor, etc.?
I’ve been having hip pain at night (fine during the day) for the past few weeks. I’ve tried sleeping on several different mattresses (we have a three bedroom home) and have noted zero difference. I’ll eventually see my doctor if this continues.
Consider an adjustable bed. If you own a La-Z-Boy type reclining chair try sleeping in it (which somewhat creates the same effect). There are a considerable number of people who abandon mattresses completely once they discover better sleep in a recliner.
I had serious back/hip issues for ages. I found that for me no one brand was better than another but ones certified by the chiropractic association (and firm) were far and away the best. OK, chiropractic is one step away from being a witch doctor ---- but by God a good nights sleep is nice to have.
We have the Tempur-pedic Cloud Luxe too. Except my reason for getting was my recently moved in girlfriend didn’t want to sleep on my air mattress every night. So I figured if I was going to buy a bed I’d get the best. Here 5 years later it is the thing we miss most on vacations. Soft enough for her firm enough for me I can’t imagine a better bed. Of course it better be for the price.
The Loom and Leaf supposedly compares to the Tempur-pedic, but maybe I’ll go take a look at one. Do they have a refund policy, or would I be stuck with a very expensive mattress if I didn’t like it?
That would be a very last resort because I like sleeping with my husband, and I much prefer sleeping on my side, but I will be furnishing my den soon, and maybe I’ll get one and try that. Thanks.
‘Nest’ is the word I’ve been using, all right. I have a body pillow, and four other pillows arranged in a complex manner. One for my feet, one for under or between my knees, one to support my side, one to give a little height to the one under my head, and one for my hands. The support does help prevent back pain, but not hip pain.
In the course of my life, almost every time I thought I should see a doctor there turned out to be no maybe about it. I would suggest that your mileage could vary but a doctor is still probably an excellent idea.
I feel your pain. It’s downright embarrassing to admit how persnickety I’ve gotten about sleep conditions. I need it to be dark, I need it to be cool enough to use a light blanket at least, and to use my soft, warm flannel sheets. I need my complicated nest of pillows. I need a fan going, but no other noise. But none of that does any good when pain keeps waking me up.
So what mattress did you end up with for yourself?
That is actually where I got the information on Loom and Leaf. They rate it fairly well. I don’t think the first one was a bad mattress, just that it wasn’t for me. The second one that I’m trying to break in now is just ghastly hard, and I think they might have warned about that too.
I don’t remember the name of it. I went out to buy a pillow top - wanted a firm mattress with a luxuriously soft pillow top, but ended up buying something closer to a eurotop. It’s fine. When I googled “why does my mattress feel harder than in the store” I found lots of sites that explain that part of the nightmare of mattress shopping is that every store uses a different name for the mattresses they carry. So a Fantasmic Sleep model 3 will be called an Cloud Nine model 8 in a different store even though they’re exactly the same model and manufacturer.
One other thing I’ve noticed is that a bare mattress that feels perfect, will feel firmer and less perfect with an allergy/dust cover on it. Not to mention the crinkling. And I bought an expensive allergy/dust cover that’s less crinkly than the cheap ones.
I did buy a king sized mattress so that I can sleep any which way I damn well please. Hubby gets a tickle out of finding me sleeping “upside down” when he wakes me up in the morning. I prefer to sleep any way that I’m comfortable, even if it means I’m laying diagonally on the bed, head near the footboard or whatever. And yes, piles of pillows.