Well, I don’t know if I actually can add anything to this discussion, but that’s never stopped me from trying… 
I think that at the heart of this confusion lies the misunderstanding of intrinsic curvature, and the mistaken assumption that it is equivalent to an extrinsic curvature (I don’t know if this terminology is actually used) in a higher dimensional space.
Take, for instance, an A4 sheet of paper. It’s flat, as one can easily demonstrate by drawing all sorts of triangles and parallels on it, with 180 degree angle sums and parallels that always stay nicely away from each other.
Now you can do all sorts of things to that piece of paper, like for instance rolling it up into a cylinder, or some kind of U-shape, and those geometric figures you just drew won’t change, regardless of how you bend that paper through three dimensional space, because it doesn’t stretch (observably much). That’s what’s meant by a flat, two dimensional surface. What’s important here, I should point out again, is that this behaviour is simply because of the fact that the piece of paper isn’t intrinsically curved, regardless of its curvature in 3d space, so you can just as well do away with the latter. It’s a characteristic of the paper to be not curved, not one that has anything to do with whatever space it is embedded in.
But there’s one thing you can’t do to that piece of paper, and that’s bend it into a surface that does have an intrinsic curvature, like for instance that of a sphere – that’s why all maps are distorted, for instance. Yet, the surface of a sphere is just as two dimensional as the piece of paper is, and just as independently so from the space it’s embedded in. You can describe it without having to say anything about the ‘surrounding’ space, and you’re not omitting anything. But on that surface, you can’t draw a triangle with an angle sum of 180 degrees, and, for instance, if you start at the equator, and draw a line at a right angle to that (going north, for instance), and then start another line like that somewhere to the side of the first one, they obviously will meet (at the north pole), despite being locally parallel. That’s the property of intrinsic curvature, which doesn’t need any talk about being embedded in higher dimensional space.
But if that’s true for two dimensional spaces, then, via applying dimensional analogy, one can easily infer it being true for three dimensional space, even though it’s not easy to be visualized, which is where all those – usually not terribly good – analogies of rubber sheets and inflating balloons and the like stem from.
To employ one of those analogies for a minute nevertheless, imagine you were a two-dimensional being living on a sheet of paper; you only know the concepts of left, right, forward, and backward. It’s usually said that these beings lack the ability to tell if they’re on a curved surface or not because they lack the concepts of up and down, but that’s not so; they are perfectly able to tell whether or not they live on a curved surface without those concepts, using only what is familiar to them – by, say, drawing a triangle and measuring its angles. The intrinsic curvature is completely independent of the concepts of up and down, and indeed, they need not even exist.
And just the same goes for three dimensions.