I thought lesbians were the demographic least likely to contract the AIDS virus.
Anyway, I’m another guy who feels that what these guys said isn’t entirely wrong or detestible, but the way they put it was rather poor. Also, the context is somewhat important, no? I mean, if they were talking dirty, a phrase like “stick it in you” doesn’t seem so bad (I still don’t think I’d use such phrasing, but still…). What if it was after sex, they’re cuddling, and in a soft spoken kind of way he mentioned that “It makes me feel kinda powerful when I’m inside you.” Would that make the statement more acceptable?
There’s nothing wrong with feeling some sense of power or boosted self esteme during sex. You may not be paying attention to it, but for all you guys saying “No,” you mean to tell me you don’t feel some sense of power when standing up with a girl on her knees before you? You can respect her, love her, and feel no urge to demean her in any way, but there is a sense of power there. I know it makes me feel like I’m king of the world! The same goes for me when going down on a girl, even if she’s the one on top. Just because I feel a sense of power from such an act doesn’t mean in any way I’m not loving her or treating her with the utmost respect.
It’s possible to feel powerful without having to degrade your partner, and I think anyone who questions that needs to go back and reread betenoir’s post again. Just because one person feels “powerful” doesn’t mean that their partner can’t feel just the same way, or has to feel subjugated or degraded at all.
The second comment, though…I do admit I haven’t felt that way. I like my orgasms to go uninterrupted, but I don’t have this feeling like “leaving a piece of me behind”. That actually seems kinda creepy put that way. I can see the desire though, so again, maybe it’s the way it’s worded that’s creeping people out.
And for those who say condoms are unromantic, there are some pretty inviting ways they can be put on. Partner participation in everything is a fun way to go about one’s business in the bedroom. Sure, it’s not the most romantic part of the event, but I think that can be topped by the farting and other goofs that occur, so it’s not the worst either.