Has anyone renewed your faith in human nature lately?

I was at Walmart today to return some paint. I was hot and sweaty from working all day and as I approached the service desk I notice that the line was as usual, down to a crawl and 15 people deep. Of course there was only one employee working the desk. I had left my returned paint and my receipt at the service desk on my way in so I had nothing to check out and just needed to get my money back. So with a weary sigh I got in behind the 15th person in line. As I stood there sweating and tired, cursing humanity in general, a lady at the front of the line with a cart full of pepsi looked back my way and said,

“Hey you’re just here to get your money back right? You can go in front of me.”

Anyone else got one of these?

does it count if I restored someone else’s faith?
I helped a pregnant lady down with a pram down some stairs today. She was very happy.

My faith in human nature needs a lot more work than that - in fact I think I need a faith transplant.

It depends on whether what you think human nature is to begin with.

If you think that it is human nature to be greedy and stupid, then my faith in human nature is reaffirmed daily.

I know what you mean however. It makes me pretty damn happy when some kind soul lets me merge onto the freeway during rush-hour traffic. ;p

Oh, this happens all the time at work. Today, for instance, one customer beckoned me by snapping and shouting “OVER HERE!”, another threatened to punch me if I didn’t give her a display rug, and I found out this guy I like somewhat and have been thinking about asking out on a date is now dating a girl we call “Tall Dark and Dumb”. But then I had this wonderfully nice family, I helped them out and they were so grateful. Made my day.

Saturday night I was at a gay club in DC (with some gay friends, I don’t like girls like that) and this drag queen named Magenta told me I was beautiful and she wished she looked like me, and then we talked for an hour. She also complimented my new jeans. I was so flattered! I love when people are honest and up front like that. I try to genuinely compliment people who are nice to me as well. So I hope I restore others’ faith too.

I saw an old guy in overalls with his pickup pulled over on the side of the road. He was helping a turtle to cross the highway. I’m glad I’m not the only one who does that.

When I was at Ren Faire taking care of our booth (I was with my two guy friends), this man and his wife approached our tables of sculptures. She led him and told him where to go, and that’s when I figured out he was blind. He felt one of the troll figures, the rough texture of the wooden pulp, and the woman described it to him as he examined it. He was beaming and said, “This is beautiful! So beautiful!” I mean, everyone else would have thought that it was the ugliest thing there but this man said that it was beautiful. They smiled and left arm in arm and I couldn’t help but feel touched seeing that blind man enjoying life. He seemed like a very open and happy individual and it made me think that if he could enjoy life with no sight, then many of us should be able to be happy, too.

I got harassed by a kind of street gang in Cannes, France while I was on the phone early one evening…they tapped on the sides of the booth, then one came over to the booth and yanked the door open. God, I was scared. So I took off in the direction my bus went…only to run into 2 dead ends, and end up back on the street where the phone booth was, and I couldn’t get back home without going past them again. So I was wandering around crying, when all of a sudden I see this “Attention! Pompiers” sign (Warning! Firemen - as in, “there’s a firehouse, so watch out for the trucks”) and looked around the garage for whoever was making the noise. Turns out it was one of the firemen in the upstairs dorm, and he came down to find out what was the matter when he heard me asking if anyone was there; as I was explaining, 3 other firefighters pulled up in an ambulance and started listening. They ended up taking me home in an ambulance so I wouldn’t have to walk past the guys, and they said they’d stop back and warn the guys. The warning probably didn’t do much good, but it was so nice of them to offer to get me home safely.

Well this was about a week ago, my life happened to be going horribly at the time, my two best friends happened to be unsympathetic, I was depressed about going to mexico for three weeks, (I’m leaving tomorrow), I hadn’t seen my boyfriend at all for about two weeks and I was all around miserable with no one to talk to.
So I went on-line, reading mindless dribble and whatever new Straight Dope column I could find usually kept me from bursting into tears. Instead I came across a guy who I had role played with before, I barely knew the guy but he got me to talking and before the night was over at around 5AM he had gotten me to tell him everything that was wrong and he just listened, he commented every once in a while but for the most part he just listened.
That was really all that I needed and he did that for me, he made me feel all better and well in the wee hours of the morning I realized that not everyone was completely horrible and I had made a friend.
He’s planing on driving from New york to California to visit me next summer too, interesting isn’t it?
No he’s not a stalker so don’t try to pull that one on me.
But with that one conversation he restored my faith in human nature.

About a month ago, I and a couple of others were driving through Austria. We were going through Klagenfurt, it was getting kind of late, and we needed a place to stay. I speak very little German (I wasn’t even sure what a hotel sign would look like in German), and what I do speak, I speak poorly, so I was a little concerned about how difficult it may be to find a place. We stopped at a pub and ask the bartender if she speaks English, but no luck.

A little discouraged, we were wandering out, and one of the customers comes up and says, “I speak English, what do you need?” We tell him we’re looking for a place to stay. He gets out the yellow pages, picks up his cell phone, and calls and finds us a room. Then he gets in his car and offers to escort us to the hotel so that we won’t have any trouble finding it. Not only that, but the lady who owns the hotel doesn’t speak English, so he comes in to interpret for each of us to make sure we agree on the price of the room.

He definitely went out of his way to help us out, it renewed my faith in human nature.

At the risk of sounding like I’m sucking up to the rest of you, I have found that most of the inhabitants of this message board restores my faith in humanity. You are intelligent and witty. You can take a joke. (And run with it to the obnoxious extreme.) You can shoot someone down in flames when you disagree, however it seems that it never gets personal. But, most of all, when someone is in dire need of a friend, you rally round, put away your differences and give them the support that they need for their crisis. That is true humanitarianism (I wish I could spell!) I am glad to be a member and hope that I can live up to the examples that have been set for me.

On a motorcycling vacation in France, my brand-new bike develops an unpleasant trait: It’ll start, but whenever I give it some revs, it dies. Curses.

I’m a bit depressed, it’s an uncommon brand (Ducati) and probably will have to be transported quite a way if I am to find a qualified mechanic.

I’m about ready to put up a sign “Will trade for BMW, any year, any model, in running condition” when I spot another guy on a Duc (996 SPS - truly an enthusiast bike) on the campsite and asks him if he has any advice. His answer: “Bring it here, I’m an AA mechanic, let’s take a look”. He then proceeds to take my bike apart, carefully laying the (rather dirty) parts of the fairing inside his tent (so they won’t blow away), removes the tank and lays it on his towel, fuel running all over it. Tests fuel valves etc., having even more fuel leak onto the towel in the process. Dismantles the tank, finds a leaking fuel hose, which he fixes in about 30 seconds. Reassembles everything, then carefully dries of the greasy fingerprints he left on the bike.

Needless to say, I’m ecstatic - offers him lunch (no thanks), beer (he’s about to go riding, but thanks anyway), I even redfacedly offer money so he can buy a beer on me when he arrives at his destination - no go. He proceeds to load his bike and rides off.

There are some really nice people out there.

Coldfire, if you read this: If you ever come across a Dutch AA mechanic with a tattoo of Desmodromic valves on his left arm, I’d apppreciate it if you were nice to him. He’s a saint.

S. Norman

I was thinking about this thread this morning as I was walking out the door with my son on his way to his bus to day camp.

The lady that is his bus driver is one of the kindest women I have ever met. Every day she picks up 9 special needs kids, some very severe and some with minor disabilities. When she opens the bus door, she always has a smile and a greeting and when my son gets to the bus (he literally almost knocks me over getting there) she has a big hug for him. When she brings him home, its the same thing. He would love to stay on the bus with her for hours I’m sure. He ends his day with her with a hug and a smile.
There definitely are some wonderful people in this world.

Norman, my dad is a BMW rider, and the stories he tells about fellow bikers helping him with mechanical problems is amazing. I’m pleased to say that what you experianced seems to be a world-wide biker phenomeon, not just a European or Ducati thing.

I spend a couple hours a week in the preschool in a youth center that’s in the worst area of town. Those kids renew my faith in the basic goodness of humanity every week. Whether it be the older afterschool kids helping our preschoolers play basketball, or the preschoolers themselves helping the youngest kid get ready for playground time, it is evident that it’s in our nature to help each other. We’ve just been so conditioned to be afraid of each other that we’ve stopped that. It’s a damn shame.

Several years ago, my parents were the recipients of one of the most charitable acts of kindness ever. To me it’s the benchmark of how life should be.

On Christmas, while visiting my parents about 300 miles from my home, I had the misfortune to wreck my car. The damage was sufficient that it couldn’t be driven so I was left with no choice but to have it fixed there. My parents volunteered (insisted) that my wife-to-be and I take Mom’s car back home. It made a good excuse to visit again in a week or so when the car was fixed.

It took a little longer than expected, but by mid January the car was ready. A plan developed for Mom & Dad to drive up Friday after work. Their expectation is to arrive by about 10PM and check into the hotel right down from my apartment.

Well 10:00 rolled around and no word. Then 11:00, 12:00, 1:00, 2:00… no word, no sign of them. I’m way past worried because it just isn’t like them to be that late and they’ve always been good about letting me know of their schedule.

As it turned out, the car had broken down about 80 miles from town on a desolate stretch of road that is about 20 miles from anything resembling a public facility. Dad raises the hood, looks around, and tries to diagnose the problem by flashlight – to no avail. They finally decide that it’s going to be a long night so they get back in the car, run whatever warmth that they can out of the heater, and settle back for some sleep. The car has bucket seats, so that helps, but noone figured on camping out so there’s no pillows or blankets. Only a change of clothes and their coats to help keep them warm.

About an hour or so later a car pulls up and stops behind my parents. Apparently these people were thinking that they’d found some free parts as they tore out as soon as they saw movement in the car. This also had the chilling effect (on an already cold January morning) of eliminating any possibility of sleep.

About 2:00 an 18-wheeler drives by. He gets on his CB and tries to raise my folks and ask if they needed help. Getting no answer the driver turns around at the next break, and comes back, stopping across the road from the car. He walks across the road and has a conversation with Dad about the problem.

The two of them then try to start the car. Dad’s in the car and the driver is fiddling with the choke. Next thing you know the car backfires and there’s now a huge gasoline fire coming from the carburetor. The driver runs back to his truck, gets his fire extinguisher, slips in the mud as he’s running back to the car getting covered with mud as he lands, and finally gets back to the car and puts out the fire.

Now the driver sets about fixing the problem in earnest. He retrieves his toolbox from his truck, and by the flashlight my Dad’s holding for him, takes the carburetor apart and finds the source of the problem. (For those mechanically minded a C-clip had jumped off its intended location making regulating fuel quantity impossible.) About two and a half hours after stopping, he gets the car back together and puts my parents on their way.

The most unselfish part was revealed in the conversation he had with my parents. The guy is a professional long haul trucker. He’d been on the road for three weeks and was scheduled to pull his current load into his hometown of Houston sometime mid-afternoon the next day where he was going to have a few days off and spend time at home with his wife. When he’d last gassed up the rig he’d taken time to shower and shave, put on clean jeans and his best shirt.

In stopping to help my parents he threw his schedule completely off, delaying himself so that he couldn’t arrive before dinner, got absolutely filthy with mud and grease, and ruined the clothes he was wearing.

My parents made sure to get his name and address, and upon returning home, sent him a check to cover the cost of his ruined clothes and sufficient to express their gratitude.

I never got to meet him. But he’s surely a Saint.

No.

I can’t remember anything significant lately, but when I was about 17, I was riding my bike somewhere and a strip piece of metal had wrapped itself around my rear wheel, disabling my bike.

I tried to free it with my hands, but it was wrapped to tightly. I had no tools, not even a pencil, to help pry it off. I half carried my bike to a nearby self service station, that naturally has no tools in it anymore. Being about a mile from home, I was not looking forward to carrying my bike all the way.

This guy in a work truck gassing up asks me if I have a problem and I show him the situation. He takes out a pair of scissors that cut through the tin-like metal and in about 3 minutes, I’m free and clear. I was very very happy.

I tell him, " Thank you very much"

“Just do me a favor.”

“Sure.”

“Return the favor some day.”
And I have, a few times.

On my drive out to California, my mom and I crossed the Rockies in Colorado. Beautiful, beautiful scenery, and we were having a blast until right about 9500 feet up, my car suddenly died.

We pull over, wait a couple of minutes, start it up and keep going. It dies again. We try three times, and it keeps happening. We’re a little freaked now, because there’s no town for 20 miles, and her cell phone is out of range. My cell phone isn’t, and I call the rescue service I’d signed up for. They estimated it would take an hour and a half to get a tow truck out to me, and the nearest Ford place was in Vail, well outside of the paid towing range.

We’d waited about half an hour. I discovered that if you really have to go to the bathroom, you can climb halfway up a mountain and pee behind some pine trees, but you should watch for the baby scorpions. Not three minutes after I’d returned to the car, a tow truck pulled up. Hot damn! They’d gotten there ahead of time.

The guy driving had a fluffy white beard, battered cap, and overhauls. He looked like Santa picking up some money working for AAA.

“You folks probably have vapor lock!” he announced as he climbed out.

“A whatsit lock?”

Between the hot day, the high altitude, the ethanol addictives in the gas, and the recirclatory system in my little car, so much fuel had vaporized in the tank, the fuel pump couldn’t get fuel to the engine. He cracked the tank lid, we heard a hisssssss of escaping gas, and in five minutes we were back on the road. No charge, no fuss. We thanked him profusely. He probably saved us $75 in towing charges. A less ethical person could have sheared us like sheep if they’d wanted to.

We stopped at the next gas station for my mom to use the bathroom (she refused to pee behind pine trees, scorpions or no scorpions). When we got back on the road, we passed that tow truck driver stopped again, helping someone out. Apparently, he just does that sort of thing.

Half an hour down the road, I get a call on my cell phone from the phone rescue people. The tow truck driver would be out to us in another hour or so. It turns out that the man who stopped to help us wasn’t even from the rescue service.

Yeah, that went a long way to restore my faith.

Aside from finding intelligent people here, nope. Everytime I look up, there’s another mess happening.

Not recently, but last winter my father and I were travelling to Winnipeg from Saskatoon. Now many of you may not be fa,iliar with how desolate that highway on the prairies can be, those that do know will symapthize. First some background, it had been very,very cold, even by our standards and my father has a little volkwagen Jetta that is a diesel. Can you guess? About 2 kms outside of Davidson Sask. the fuel gelled completely. We sat there knowing that it’s like -25 to -30 out there with a really strong windchill and we are a good, wide, OPEN 2 kms from the nearest shelter.
Then I saw a CN truck drive INTO the large ditch-like area that seperates the highway. He pulls up behind us and drives us into Davidson to get some De-gelling agent. Unfortunately that did not work either. So he waits with us for a tow truck. Very nice guy.

This is the type of person who’d restore my faith that there’s some sanity left in the world.

If I’d ever encounter someone who is capable of empathizing WHILE remaining objective. I doubt I’ve ever yet met someone truly like that. By this, I mean someone who is

Capable of being non-judgmental (not judging on what s/he thinks s/he understands about me; capable of an empathy that’s NOT based on something that s/he relates to either emotionally or logically. By this I mean, empathy that’s not based on having experienced the matter being referred to, but rather, smilingly trying to understand, but really NOT fakely trying to understand, even without necessarily having experienced.

I’m not sure I explained myself as clearly as I wished to, but that is the way I feel.