I’ve thought about this. In real life I have skipped the civil “vows” part and attended the after-party. So it’s not just about church avoidance.
To me (and I’ll accept being the odd one here) a wedding ceremony is comparable to a “chick flick” which I also avoid. It’s extremely personal, emotional, glurgey, etc.
I’ll bring a very nice gift to the reception. I’ll wish the couple well. I’ll drink and dance. But I’ll opt-out for the rest regardless of anyone’s sexual orientation.
I would never attend another wedding unless these two women get married and I am invited. It’s an aesthetic thing. I think their love for each other is just so pretty. Here they share it on a stage.
My cousin’s and a former co-worker’s. That’s two separate weddings–Debby and Jane don’t know each other.
Did so back in '07, in Toronto for the head counsel at the office. Posh shindig with a fancy registry and all… dudes split before 2 years had gone by, it figures. My then co-worker would remarry years later much more simply and it has worked out much better so far.
I went to one about 20 years ago, in the red state of Arizona.
I would if socially obligated, but generally speaking I freakin’ hate attending weddings (and most other rituals you care to name).
I have, although it was 10+ years ago, before same-sex marriage was legal in their state. IIRC, they referred to it as a “commitment ceremony”.
I’d attend (or not attend) a same-sex wedding for the same reasons I’d attend/not attend a “traditional” wedding.