I just had an ultrasound for my 4th baby. I already have 2 boys and a girl. It was pretty clear that this baby will be a boy too.
I have to admit that I’m a little disappointed. It would have been logistically easier with a girl. Then the 2 boys share a room and the 2 girls share a room.
But with 3 boys and a girl (there will be no more babies.) You either have 3 boys sharing a room and the girl gets her own (which isn’t fair). Or 2 boys in a room, the girl in a room, and the baby in his own room (which agian isn’t fair).
How will it be for my little girl to be surrounded by boys on all sides.
Wow, you’re up to three fine sons and a daughter too. What a blessing.
It’s wonderful. Two older brothers to look out for her, and one for her pick on. My mom came from a family just like this, and her brother repeated the pattern except for he waited until the fourth to have a girl.
She’ll be fine, and the two little ones can share a room for some time without the sex differences mattering.
It’ll all work out. My sister and I shared a room, and my brother had his own when next sister was born. Bro and youngest sis shared a room for 4 years until last sis was born. Then bratty brother got his own room in the basement (It woulda been my room if last sis had been a boy, the brat!)
Anyway, my point, and I do have one, is that when they’re so young, it really doesn’t matter who sleeps where. That buys you some time to figure things out as the kids get older.
Incidentally, my brother, with two sisters on either side of him agewise, just became CEO of the complany where he works. So being stuck in the middle doesn’t seem to have hampered him!
I have 5 children. 4 Boys and 1 Girl. Granted one child I placed for adoption so he didn’t live with me. But for the others…
The girl always had her own room. The boys always shared a room. It works out just fine. The boys never complained. Now the girl has moved out and everyone has their own room. So good things come to those who wait!
So, you had two boys, then a girl and now another boy?
That set up could be my family, except there’s 8 years between me (the only girl) and my younger brother. The older brothers are 2 and 4 years older than me, so they were 10 and 12 when lil’bit was born (at 22, he is now the tallest in the family. I still use this name for him. )
It wasn’t so bad, really. We had three bedrooms in the house. Mom and Dad in one, two older brothers in another and younger brother and me in the third, from the time he was 6 weeks old until oldest brother went off to college. At that point, lil’bit was moved into the “boys room”. Oldest was 18 when he went away to school, so I was 14 and lil’bit was 6. Not too bad - and it was really the only way to make it work.
Meanwhile, on being the only girl with three brothers? It’s not so bad - but make sure she has the chance to socialize with other girls beyond school. A ballet class, soccer team…whatever she’s interested if you can. I was not only the only girl in the family, but I was the only girl in the neighborhood, and that was tough - I became very rough and tumble (ok, so I could fight the boys well too). Dealing with school was sometimes tough because I never spent much time with girls until then - but the boys and girls tended to play seperately (just because they did, not because anyone seperated us), so I had to try to learn.
Three brothers are fun too - they may fight like the dickens when they’re younger, but there’s nothing like having three brothers to take care of you too. And now that we’re all older, I don’t wish for a sister. Well, occasionally I do, but mostly I’m happy with my brothers.
I feel guilty that I’m not just thrilled to pieces that my baby is healthy. I know many people would love to be in my shoes.
But I just found out today that it’s a boy, so I’m going to allow myself a little time to feel disappointed. Then I’ll get used to the idea and eventually start feeling excited.
My first 2 boys are awesome, so there’s no reason this one shouldn’t be too.
I’ve got three boys and one girl, but luckily for her, the girl was the oldest. I had not had an ultrasound during the fourth pregnancy, not really being fussed either way about gender, but my daughter (then aged 6) was desperately hanging out for a little sister.
When kid #4 squirmed out onto the delivery-bed, her first comment (apart from, “EWWWW…GROSS”), was “Aw, mum, it’s not fair. He’s got BALLS”. She fell in love with him ten minutes later, and 15 years down the track are still the best of mates.
Yes, bedrooms and space were always at a premium, but somehow you manage. Kids sharing rooms (even three of them) is a wonderful way for them to learn tolerance and how to evade flying missiles in confined spaces.
Anyway, congratulations Autz, and may your family bring you much joy. Be prepared for funny looks from people in the street, and snide comments from acquaintances about whether you’re trying to start up your own footy team. I used to just tell people that I was a devout Catholic (I’m an atheist) to shut them up.
I have 2 girls and three boys, but never really went through your situation. (The girls are the oldest, and are twins.) Don’t sweat wanting another girl. After the first couple of boys (we tried to adopt a boy before any of our own came along), my wife wanted girls. She seems pretty happy with how things turned out, now.
I wouldn’t worry about the logistics. The only shame is that it is very hard to pass boys’ clothes on down the line, because they wear everything out.
I guess it’s weird for me because I come from a family of 4 sisters. And now, of those 4 sisters who have had children, we now total 8 boys, and just 1 girl. Something is in the water for sure!
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