I could really use some help-
My girlfriend’s father is going through a rough patch, currently, with some problems in his marriage. However, that’s not the problem. The problem is that his anxiety, which was not good before, is, well, raging, now. He has been to a therapist a few times (2-3), but is reluctant to return, for a host of reasons. I have a decent enough relationship with him that I’ve been leaning on him to continue to see the therapist, but I am not holding my breath about whether or not he will continue to go.
I figure, you can’t really help someone who isn’t interested in helping himself. I can’t make him go to therapy, and I can’t force him to take any medication, although Jebus knows that a horse dose of Prozac or Wellbutrin would do him a world of good. What I need is strategies on how to deal with him when he’s in the middle of an attack, that don’t include physical violence on my part.
An example or two may prove beneficial- he was to fly back from his vacation last night at midnight. His flight was delayed. He called his house to inform his wife that the flight would be late (we don’t live with him), but his wife didn’t answer the phone. Instead of figuring that she was in the shower, or otherwise occupied, he called us at 11:20 p.m., and was all wigged out about his wife not being able to pick him up when the flight eventually came in, at 7:00 a.m. the next day. (FWIW, there are problems between he and she, and some wigging is understandable, but there are plenty of rational solutions for the return from the airport problem).
I understand being a little rattled by having a flight change like that, especially seeing as how the new arrival time is close to when people have to go to work, but he was way, way off the deep end. I imagine that if one had measured his blood pressure at that moment, he’d have blown up the machine.
Example #2- he and I are part of a golf league on Saturday mornings. I wanted to hang out after my round, and have a beer with other people in the league. I was not planning on going to his house that day. He did not drive me to the course. We had had all of the social interaction planned for the day. However, he insisted that I leave the parking lot when he was ready to go, and generally was so unpleasant that I just left so as not to make a scene.
What in the heck am I supposed to do? His psychoses are driving my poor girlfriend insane, and I can’t stand to be around him, because he makes me crazy. I like the man, and I know he’s under a lot of pressure and strain right now, but I can’t stand for him to call my house, and I’m afraid I’m going to snap at him when he’s in the middle of one of these spells.
Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Failing that, anyone know where I can get a Taser?