I haven’t even bothered to read the other posts yet, because I have such clear cut ideas on this. So, sorry if I repeat anything.
But I think you already know the answer to your OP. You stated that you’d had lots of bad bosses and do not want to repeat their mistakes. 'kay.
Don’t do what those bad managers did!
I find that the best bosses manage by Golden Rule principles:
- If you want to make a friend, be a friend
- If you want to be respected, then offer your employee respect first, without having reason to. You’ll earn it back, trust me.
- If you want to be trusted, then trust your employees first, without having reason to. You’ll earn it back…
- Think (hell, make a written list) of all the crappy things former bosses have done to you. Then do the opposite with your staff…
Don’t like being misled, lied to, manipulated or deceived? Then, don’t do that.
I swear, on my cat’s grave, that this principle WORKS. You will not have to balance what your staff wants with what your boss wants… Because they all want the same thing: open sharing of information, trust, honesty, respect, integrity, leadership… Pick your favorite attributes.
I’m at least 10 years younger than 75% of my staff. Yet they look to me as a coach, mentor, friend, and most of all, supporter. I have earned their respect through a) knowing WTF I am doing in my own job and b) trusting and respecting their talents and experience. They have never let me down yet. And my boss just gave me the maximum raise possible, attached to a lovely little thank you note in my praise.
More on this? E-mail me.