How low do you have to be to steal from your elderly, nursing home residenced Mom? Seriously, I want to know. Isn’t it below selling bogus insurance policies door-to door? Isn’t it below selling a used car that has sawdust in the oil to make it run smooth and a rolled-back odometer? Isn’t it almost as low as slipping a barfly a Mickey & then harvesting their kidneys? I guess I just need to know.
I need to know because apparently, I’m related to someone who has done this. Technically, I’m related to Two people who have done this… and I’m just fucking Appalled.
Dad died a few years ago & left everything to Mom. Evidently, that didn’t sit too well for one sister who has Always spent beyond her means. Mom, being in her mid- 80s, just wasn’t able to live by herself any longer. Together, as a group, she and her children decided to find her an ‘Assisted Living Facility’. We found a nice one and she has enough friends and activities to keep her younger looking than she has in years. Life is Good for her.
Lately, however, she’s been worried about her money. I wondered why: I know Dad left her enough to be comfortable with till the end of her days. It seems however, that Dad’s executor had answered every inquiry she had with “you’re fine, you’re fine” without producing any solid proof. :dubious:
A good sister and I asked for more detailed information and made a scheduled appointment to go over her holdings. The result was that less than half of her holdings are even tracked down; there are stocks with missing certificates, accounts where the account numbers are lost…basically slipshod half-assed accounting. Beyond that, which is appalling in itself, we found out about ‘The Loans’. :mad:
Evidently, Evil Bitch Sister has borrowed, with the Executor’s permission and interest free, Over $40,000 of principal from my Mom’s trust!!! There are No repayment terms and no signed note: Its just Fucking Gone. Now, I should tell you that Evil Bitch Sister (EBS) has Zero capacity to repay. She’s been living in a mansion & driving euro sedans for years…but she’s spent all the equity out of the house, the cars are leased, and frankly, she couldn’t swing an additional loan for a Wet Book of Matches. She even has asked Mom to borrow more money. (I’ve spoken to Mom; she’s agreed to refer her to me the second she asks) Evidently, the loan is to be paid back “out of her share of the inheritance”. Excuse You, Bitch, But Who Gave You The Right To Shovel Dirt In My Mom’s Face…?
But that’s not even all of it. Evidently the Executor has Also borrowed $40,000.00 and under the Exact Same Terms!!! They’re putting up new aluminium siding on his house As You Read This!!! She too, is in no position to repay her loan. Her tax return business barely pays the mortgage and her husband’s salary is pitiful at best. Unfortunately, the executive is also a relative, so we won’t be pressing charges against her either. But I’ve done an amortization table based on the returns of what’s left. Evidently, if my mom lives for 10 more years without any major expenses beyond normal living, she won’t exhaust her funds. But one major illness or hospital stay or if she lives to be 100…she’ll be a pauper: dead broke.
Now I know that grabbing those two Bitches and shaking them upside-down until money falls out of their pockets would feel good…but I know it wouldn’t get Mom’s money back. That and getting myself jailed isn’t going to help things. If I snapped both of their evil Y-chromosome challenged necks, their scumbag spouses would still find a way to steal more. Basically, aside from ranting here, there’s not One Damn Thing I Can Do about it. :mad:
How do I protect Mom from her Own Damn Family…? Do I even have the Right to…?