She is very sweet.
I buy her things all the time. It is a bit harder to buy for her because I am used to buying gifts for people I care about at flea markets and thrift stores. She is something of a germophobe and so does not trust most second hand items.
As I said, she is very musically gifted. A few minutes after seeing a theremin for the very first time, she was able to play the Star Wars theme well enough that i recognized it without her telling me what she was playing. She is learning to play the bansuri, the traditional bamboo flute. I bought a Jytmus, a brand of steel tongue drum for her at a Goodwill. As one or two of the gifts I have given her have been duds, I didn’t want to spend the money on mallets and finger picks if it turned out that she didn’t want it. She did . I have been offering to get her the drum’s accessories since Valentine’s day. Her birthday is next month. I will be including them in her birthday presents.
We are big fans of Steampunk. We go to at least one Steampunk convention each year. At the flea market on Saturday, I found a hardcover copy of The Steampunk User’s Manual. It is full of projects to make. I gave it to her this past weekend only because I was not sure if she would accept a second hand book. It is in great shape and appears to never have been read. But, she is a germophobe. I did not want to save it for her birthday and have her reject it.
She likes bunnies. Years ago, I was staying at her apartment and had brought my balloons and pump. I made her a balloon bunny. She thought it was great and said that sometime I should make more. Then, she had to leave to briefly run an errand or visit family or something. While I was alone at her apartment, I covered the couch in balloon bunnies. When she returned, she was delighted. I had forgotten about this until she recently posted a photo of the moment on Facebook. While looking for something else at CVS, I found a stuffed ballon bunny. It was the last one they had. I bought it, brought it home, and immediately sealed it in a Ziploc freezer bag. Still, she generally considers everything in my apartment unclean and mold infested. So, I was not sure she would want it. I gave that to her last weekend as well. She love it and was touched I thought to seal it in an airtight bag.
Her go to gift is See’s milk chocolate bordeaux. She has told me that she is concerned about her weight (she shoudln’t be) and does not want those for her birthday.
I am unsure what else to get her for her birthday. The Jytmus accessories are clearly not enough. After her father died, her mother started to seriously decline. Because her mother would not accept a stranger as a live in aid, my beloved moved back in to her parents’ house. Her mother hates, loathes and despises me. Besides other problems, this makes it dificult to send flowers. There are a variety of Steampunk and Renn Faire clothing items I could get her. But every time I have offered to buy her clothes in the last year, she has said ‘I need to lose twenty pounds first.’
I hope I think of something.